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how do i overcome rejection for the first time? watch

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    Hi, well, I feel absolutely **** at the moment. Lets cut to the chase, I liked a girl for a year. I have always been very comfortable with girls but when I saw her I just ceased to like any other and I felt like I was going to burst whenever I saw her (even now). She was with another guy, I talked to her. I wasn’t too friend-like towards her but flirty etc and this happened for quite a while.
    The thing is, she has been in long relationships, over one year, then moved on to the next guy within a day. She goes on stuff like myspace and says how much shes adore so and so. You get the picture. However, somethings happened and its like I couldn’t stop thinking about her. Good things that happened to me turned crap and even food tasted stale. (I know this sounds pathetic but its genuinely how I feel.)

    I confided in my best m8 (who I’ve been best m8s with since I was 5, I’m 16 now). He was like a best mate in helping me and stuff. After she broke up I asked her out (this was eased) she rejected me in a false way. Shortly after, my best m8 was her new bf (this was on the day after she broke up).
    College is starting in a couple of weeks and I feel really down. How do I get over this? I don’t want to take revenge because I was actually in love with her so I don’t want anything bad to happen to her.But they are being really provocative around everywhere with my m8s and I just don’t know what to do. I know this whole ‘teenage love’ thing may sound like nonsense but I do feel really sick at the minute.

    Wtf can I do?
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    Get over her and cut your ties with your 'best mate'. She's not interested, he's not a mate.
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    first off, you need to rid these feelings, time is a healer.
    second, get rid of that 'best' mate. what a ******
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    i think this is really going to take time because he was like a brother to me and a genuine mate. but maybe i was wrong. what can i do though. things aren't what they one were.
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    lol dumbd..i think i know what you mean..it probably does work..

    OP: Get over it man..plenty of fish in the sea (H) lol

    Edit: Your mate, isnt a mate..stop talking to him

    Btw..sorry you got rejected..it happens
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    i mean, it was so sudden. i found out in the crudest manner aswell. somehow i managed to act normal tho when i did find out.
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    Yeah, good for you .. thats the best way to react.. .. i think its been said before..but times the biggest time healer
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    thats a bad situation to be in. But yeh, give it time, and you will no doubt get over her Make sure the girl in question is not playing you or giving you false hope. Iv experienced far too many girls who behave like this and its a head ****.

    The deal with your best mate is kind off screwed, i don't know how i would act if my best mate did that to me.
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    **** it, tell me if i'm doing things wrong:

    i'm going to build up my relationships/popularity more with more friends of hers and my former best m8s whilst my former best m8 and the girl are more centred around each other. then we'll see who wins in the long run. maybe revenge is not the best answer and i may regret it but i have to make mistakes to learn from them don't i?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i think this is really going to take time because he was like a brother to me and a genuine mate. but maybe i was wrong. what can i do though. things aren't what they one were.
    ive been in a similar position before, where i was crazy for a girl, the most ive ever felt for a girl(not love though), i was also 16 at the time. well my best mate pulled her one night, a drunk thing, he also fancied her, and obviously it broke my heart. i was more torn about the fact that my best mate betrayed me, but it was a one thing. nothing more happened. he didnt go out with her or anything, for weeks a didnt speak to him, but he showed why he was my best mate, called, txted, emailed me constantly. we went back to being best mates, i loved the guy too much for him not to be my mate. but this situation was a bit different, he didnt go out with her, i meant more to him then she did. your mate seems content to be with her and lose you, which is just horrible.
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    Hey OP, you mention that you're going to college is starting in a couple of weeks. Are they going to the same college with you?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    **** it, tell me if i'm doing things wrong:

    i'm going to build up my relationships/popularity more with more friends of hers and my former best m8s whilst my former best m8 and the girl are more centred around each other. then we'll see who wins in the long run. maybe revenge is not the best answer and i may regret it but i have to make mistakes to learn from them don't i?
    dude its not worth, its not going to lessen the pain your feeling. if i was you, i would just cut them both out of your lives unless your best mate realises what a ******** hes been and does some serious groveling.
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    (Original post by Eidothea)
    Hey OP, you mention that you're going to college is starting in a couple of weeks. Are they going to the same college with you?
    yeah and they're in some of my classes aswell which is ****.
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    and i can't escape it because they're always in my face
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    Rejection happens to most of us, all you can do is try not to let it get you down so much that you think you will never find another girl.
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    Life goes on.
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    (Original post by Planto)
    Life goes on.
    And yes life goes on, you are young and there is plenty of time to find a girl.
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    Don't think about her when you masturbate. If you do a chemical called oxytocin is released, which just makes you want her more.
 
 
 
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