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should he be upset?
i have been with my boyfriend for 2 year almost 3 i love him loads, and would do anything for him.
This girl goes to the same Uni as me we also went to school together.
we went out student night and we kissed eachother, i was really drunk but i told my boyfriend about it becuase i was confused why it happened and when i told him he was terribly upset. he hates me going out with her now.
do you think this means anything and should he be this upset?
This girl goes to the same Uni as me we also went to school together.
we went out student night and we kissed eachother, i was really drunk but i told my boyfriend about it becuase i was confused why it happened and when i told him he was terribly upset. he hates me going out with her now.
do you think this means anything and should he be this upset?
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This might sound like a silly question, but are you male or female?
Either way, it's understandable that he'd be upset (and possibly a little confused) because you're with him one minute then a girl the next. He'll be questioning your sexuality for starters, and wondering if it's his inadequecies as a man that have led to it.
Either way, it's understandable that he'd be upset (and possibly a little confused) because you're with him one minute then a girl the next. He'll be questioning your sexuality for starters, and wondering if it's his inadequecies as a man that have led to it.
Imagine that the girl you kissed was a guy. From that you should be able to understand why he is upset, regardless of the gender of the person you kissed, you still got Jiggy with someone behind his back.
ur a chick?
Dont worry yourself, I dont see it as a big deal to go out pashing random when your wasted
think if he pashed a guy, how you'd feel...probably the same.
Dont worry yourself, I dont see it as a big deal to go out pashing random when your wasted
think if he pashed a guy, how you'd feel...probably the same.
You went out and kissed another person behind his back and you wonder why he's annoyed?
Regardless of gender thats cheating in my book (other people's opinions WILL differ on that subject), and it seems like it is in his to.
or was he annoyed he didnt get to see you kiss another girl? (assuming you are one)
Regardless of gender thats cheating in my book (other people's opinions WILL differ on that subject), and it seems like it is in his to.
or was he annoyed he didnt get to see you kiss another girl? (assuming you are one)
Anonymous
i have been with my boyfriend for 2 year almost 3 i love him loads, and would do anything for him.
This girl goes to the same Uni as me we also went to school together.
we went out student night and we kissed eachother, i was really drunk but i told my boyfriend about it becuase i was confused why it happened and when i told him he was terribly upset. he hates me going out with her now.
do you think this means anything and should he be this upset?
This girl goes to the same Uni as me we also went to school together.
we went out student night and we kissed eachother, i was really drunk but i told my boyfriend about it becuase i was confused why it happened and when i told him he was terribly upset. he hates me going out with her now.
do you think this means anything and should he be this upset?
To be honest, whilst drunken-lesbianism is not something that would bother me in a girl, you did still kiss someone else. You'd be upset if he kissed another girl I take it, so just assume that's how he's feeling about what you did.
I'm afraid he has every right to be upset regardless whether it was a male or female you kissed, it's still cheating.
Fae
gender obviously does make a difference..assuming shes not bi there were no feelings behind this kiss and it was just something that seemed funny at the time, perhaps he doesn't realise this, but i think he's def overreacting
So just because she kissed another girl means that its all ok? It doesn't matter what your sexuality is.
Using that logic, I could go out and snog anyone if it seems 'funny at the time'.
Fae
gender obviously does make a difference..assuming shes not bi there were no feelings behind this kiss and it was just something that seemed funny at the time, perhaps he doesn't realise this, but i think he's def overreacting
That is total rubbish, lea put it perfectly, doesn't matter what gender it is, it is still cheating.
Regardless of the gender of the person you kissed, you still kissed someone despite being in a relationship with someone else. To be honest, if I were in that situation, I wouldn’t have told – You were drunk and being silly, so your boyfriend didn’t need to know.
Also, I believe your boyfriend may think there’s more to it seeing as you actually took out the time to tell him you kissed another person. If you weren’t questioning your relationship with him, then there wouldn’t have been a need to tell him IMO.
So I would say: Yes, he should be upset.
Also, I believe your boyfriend may think there’s more to it seeing as you actually took out the time to tell him you kissed another person. If you weren’t questioning your relationship with him, then there wouldn’t have been a need to tell him IMO.
So I would say: Yes, he should be upset.
Fae
gender obviously does make a difference..assuming shes not bi there were no feelings behind this kiss and it was just something that seemed funny at the time, perhaps he doesn't realise this, but i think he's def overreacting
It's perfectly possible to kiss a male with no feelings behind the kiss too, you know. Does that mean he shouldn't be annoyed if she kissed another guy, but said there were no feelings involved? Of course not. It's cheating, end of.
These threads that say 'should I feel this' or 'should he feel that' get on my wick a bit, people certainly shouldn't have to justify their feelings or be made to believe they don't have a right to them.
The important thing is that your boyfriend IS upset, what does it matter the people of TSR think they would be or not [in his situation]? Go and make it up to him, you daft baggage!!
The important thing is that your boyfriend IS upset, what does it matter the people of TSR think they would be or not [in his situation]? Go and make it up to him, you daft baggage!!
Saffie
If your bf thinks there was some kind of feeling behind the kiss, then yeah he has a right to be annoyed.
If he thought it was just a friendly, funny thing to do at the time, then I don't think he has reason to be annoyed.
If he thought it was just a friendly, funny thing to do at the time, then I don't think he has reason to be annoyed.
Of course he does.
You cheated on him. Gender is totally irrelevant.
Me and my boyfriend talked about this the other day actually, a hypothetical sistuation, how he would feel I have I kissed a girl.
And he said if he had any reason to believe there may have been some feeling behind the kiss then yes he'd be upset.
So I'm going to assume that's how your boyfriend is feeling.
As posts above have shown, opinions on whether or not that is cheating are going to differ, and I assume you don't think it was a big deal because you were drunk or whatever, but I don't think you can blame him for having a differnt take on it.
And he said if he had any reason to believe there may have been some feeling behind the kiss then yes he'd be upset.
So I'm going to assume that's how your boyfriend is feeling.
As posts above have shown, opinions on whether or not that is cheating are going to differ, and I assume you don't think it was a big deal because you were drunk or whatever, but I don't think you can blame him for having a differnt take on it.
yeah but i think if she kissed a guy, even if there were no feelings behind it her boyfriend could never be sure of this, that she wasn't at all attracted to him. but i see what you mean. I just think that if my boyfriend went out and kissed another guy when drunk (and i was sure he was straight) it was just a meaningless physical action that really didn't mean a damn thing.
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