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Anon because my friends come on here and I don't want them knowing about any of this....
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
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Well thats a bit alarming if you live together and you don't trust him, think you might be reading to much into the xxxx's in the text, it seems perfectly normal to do that.
Anonymous
Anon because my friends come on here and I don't want them knowing about any of this....
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
Kisses? On a text message? My god, he's totally cheating!! Kisses are normally reserved for married couples communicating via text message! Dump him right now.
Or grow up.
englishstudent
Kisses? On a text message? My god, he's totally cheating!! Kisses are normally reserved for married couples communicating via text message! Dump him right now.
Or grow up.
Or grow up.
If anything, you should be more concerned about the ‘who u there with?’ than the kisses...
Did he perhaps send you that text deliberatlely to you to keep you on your toes perhaps? If he did, he's a very sad lad. ^o)
I AM concerned about the "who u there with" bit as well. i'm concerned with everything. And he wouldn't do it deliberately, he told me it was just a mistake and i believe that. i just wish i could not be so paranoid. i have been cheated on a lot and its hard to get out of that mindframe.
Anonymous
Anon because my friends come on here and I don't want them knowing about any of this....
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
I have just come back from a holiday, and on the last day of my holiday my boyfriend sent me a text saying "who u there with xx" . Now he knows I was on holiday with my family, so I text him back saying "what's that supposed to mean".... Anyways, I'm back now and he admits that he meant to send that text to his ex girlfriend. I know that they still talk to each other and stuff, and I was fine with that, but I am just so upset that he puts kisses on the end of his messages to her! I told him that I didn't like it, and he said he only does it because she sends kisses to him, but I can't stop thinking that something is going on because of it! Do I sound totally paranoid, and if so, how the hell can I stop feeling this way?!?! We have been together 9 months and live together.
id be the exact same if i were in your position...however id say (like other people) that the kisses arent really worth worrying about. did you know he was texting his ex? if not then surely that is something more to worry about, if you did know then great! at least he told you... a lot of guys would prob have said they sent it to a mate etc
lynchy
id be the exact same if i were in your position...however id say (like other people) that the kisses arent really worth worrying about. did you know he was texting his ex? if not then surely that is something more to worry about, if you did know then great! at least he told you... a lot of guys would prob have said they sent it to a mate etc
^o) ...... I think she’d have more to worry about then!
Anonymous
I AM concerned about the "who u there with" bit as well. i'm concerned with everything. And he wouldn't do it deliberately, he told me it was just a mistake and i believe that. i just wish i could not be so paranoid. i have been cheated on a lot and its hard to get out of that mindframe.
How much do you trust your boyfriend? It may be an idea to talk to him about the text message sent. The kisses aren’t the problem, but the asking whether she’s alone in her house is. Why would it interest him? Does it really concern him? Why would he need to know? It leads you to the idea that something could easily be going on between them.
oh god now i feel even worse 
Andrzej S.
How much do you trust your boyfriend? It may be an idea to talk to him about the text message sent. The kisses aren’t the problem, but the asking whether she’s alone in her house is. Why would it interest him? Does it really concern him? Why would he need to know? It leads you to the idea that something could easily be going on between them.
Huh? How do you know she was in her house when he sent that message?
Anonymous
oh god now i feel even worse
Calm down. There’s no need to feel worse – I was a bit OTT in my last post.
How long have you been with your current boyfriend? There’s a reason you’re both together and I think you have to think positively about that. He used to be with his ex-girlfriend, and at any moment he could be with her again, yet he still chooses to be with you.
Do you trust him enough and believe him when he says nothing’s going on?
Deep down I do believe him, he has always been honest about the fact that they are still in contact, and he is so affectionate and romantic towards me. but there is always that nagging doubt at the back of my mind because this has happened so many times in the past. we have been together 9 months and they were together 2.
My ex always puts kisses on the end of his texts to me, i don't usually in texts to him, but then i don't usually to anyone. I think your reading too much into it, my mates often put kisses on their messages and they are just mates.
Anonymous
Deep down I do believe him, he has always been honest about the fact that they are still in contact, and he is so affectionate and romantic towards me. but there is always that nagging doubt at the back of my mind because this has happened so many times in the past. we have been together 9 months and they were together 2.
Then I think that’s all you need to go with – You need to trust what’s in your heart.
It’s understandable that you’ll be always wondering whether there’s something to the kisses or the question he asked, and it’s understandable because you’ve been cheated on in the past. Although it’s also important to let go and look ahead to the future – not everyone is like that, and seeing as you’ve been with him for nine months so far (compared to the two months he was with her), and with the way he treats you, it may be better all-round to trust him when he says it’s nothing.
When you say it's happened in the past though, as I understand it that wasn't with him?
I guess it's hard to put it out of your head if you've been cr*pped on lots but try not to let too much of the stuff with other guys carry over to this one. Keep reminding yourself that that was someone else and he's not necessarily the same
JFTR I put/get xx's from ex's and there's nothing going on
I guess it's hard to put it out of your head if you've been cr*pped on lots but try not to let too much of the stuff with other guys carry over to this one. Keep reminding yourself that that was someone else and he's not necessarily the same
JFTR I put/get xx's from ex's and there's nothing going on
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