Need Perspective!

Anon because I'm fairly well known on here.

Basically, been with my gf for nearly 2 years and I've begun to reevaluate the future with her. I mean, after one year, everyone gets all 'oh yes, this could really go somewhere', but now i just don't know.

The latest thing has been a message I sent to a female friend, just asking how they were doing and were they having a good summer? My gf read this and had a HUGE go at me because she didn't know this girl and why should she not if she 'is apparantly such a good friend'?! I also put a couple of 'x's' on the end of my message, this too is a huge cause for concern for her and something that 'is just not necessary'. Now I know for some of you, this could be dumping material already....

Furthermore, I don't know if I see a long term future with her. We're both nearly 20 but have very different views on the future and family and stuff like that; I just don't know if this is going anywhere...

Finally, I also feel as though my personality has been taken advantage of, leading to me losing friends and causing arguments between myself and my family.

Any thoughts please, I'm at a loss! I'm tempted to say 'lets have a break', but I know this is a poor way of saying 'lets break up'.....

Reply 1

randomgirl

Seems like you have a few problems in your relationship.

Firstly, a trust issue, with your gf being insecure over the text to your mate. Just reassure her that she's a mate etc. Introduce them perhaps? Make sure she knows she has nothing to worry about.

Secondly, if you don't think you have a future together, whats the point in being together?

Thirdly, it seems like you resent her a bit because being with her led to you losing friends and arguing with people? That isn't healthy.

You don't need any of those things in a relationship. I think you need to re-evaluate things, do you want to be with her? Do you love her? Most importantly, are you happy? From this post, it doesn't seem like it. Maybe a break would be a good idea. Breaks don't always spell out the end for a relationship. Get some time to yourself, get your head together etc.

:smile:

Hope things get sorted for you.

Reply 2

Bread and Circlejerks

yeh?

Oh wait, I guess not. Oh well.

Reply 3

King Hippo

Lol, now THERE's a coincidence.

That's all it is though, mind. He says he's been with her for 2 years, but the lass in the other one says 9 months.

Reply 4

username47781

Wooh she is being a bit of a bunny boiler there. You are perfectly entitled to have other female friends. Breaks rarely work, talk to her about this, tell her although you do have other friends, she is the one you love. But you shouldn't need to keep reassuring her. No trust in a relationship is not good.

Reply 5

Planto

She's being rubbish. Tell her so.

Reply 6

Louher

to be honest it just sounds like you've grown apart from each other. I'm 21 and I was with my ex from being 16-20, we both went away to university and totally changed and wanted different things and so broke up. You're only young so its natural that you having doubts, it happens to most people.