would you wait?

around for your guy or girl while they pursue someone? if they say they want to have a future with you but want someone else for whatever reason would you stick around and wait?

i'm using anon due to friends and family read TSR and dont want anyone to know!

Reply 1

rawkingpunkster

Well, i dont think so.

I mean, if they want a future with you, why pursue someone else?

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

17

um no, I'm not some rental car to drive around in before they own their own car.

Reply 3

randomgirl

14

blackswan

um no, I'm not some rental car to drive around in before they own their own car.

LOL!

Reply 4

em1n3m

depends on how strong your feelings are for that person!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

i love my partner very much. but i want to make sure my partner has no regrets when with me so maybe waiting would be a good thing but ii should have limits right? has anyone else been in this sort of problem?

Reply 6

Freud

14

That sounds awful... They sound very shallow and hurtful :s-smilie:

Reply 7

Nudlz

if you think there worth pursuing then maybe, you never know what will change he might start to like you more and go of this new girl but you have to make that descion if you want to wait, but if you do and they end up 2gther you could end up ebing hurt so becareful

dont get a broken heart

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

i see what you mean. sorry about the lack of sex in my posts but i am male. if she does see this guy it will make me appear the better one hopefully. but i want to know what makes this bloke so good?? i can't go and ask what it is for it'd be very embarrasing. guess i got to stick it out

Reply 9

sweetface.

Have you tried talking to her about this issue?

Edit: I didn't read your latest post fully. Why should you wait around for her?? I presume that you're young and you have years ahead of you before the need to settle down. So the best thing you can do is just to move on. There's nothing you can do, she is with someone else now. You just need to start forgetting about her and just move on.

Reply 10

Spleh

Anonymous

around for your guy or girl while they pursue someone? if they say they want to have a future with you but want someone else for whatever reason would you stick around and wait?

Heck no! Either they want you or they don't, tell her/him to make their bloody minds up!

Reply 11

ladykk

agree with above!!!!!!!

Reply 12

devils_nose

10

not a chance - either I'm good enough or I'm not, I'm not competing for the affections of someone who clearly only has lukewarm feelings for me. You are asking to be hurt if you let her treat you like this. Go out and find someone who knows to appreciate what they've got!!

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

she said she dunno about this guy but its different. i just cant imagine him or her doing things with each other. it just makes me sick. one side of me thinks i should just get up and leave but its so hard as dispite whats happened i still love her :frown:

Reply 14

ladykk

just because you cant imagine it-doesnt mean it wont happen! Its not looking good and the fact shes questioning at an early stage isnt good.

Reply 15

Ilora-Danon

3

I don't know where to start with this one!

Firstly, no.

Secondly, why would you wait for someone who says they want you, but also want another???

Thirdly, does this person have NO respect for you or what!?

and Finally, don't you have any respect for yourself???

Reply 16

Spleh

Anonymous

she said she dunno about this guy but its different. i just cant imagine him or her doing things with each other. it just makes me sick. one side of me thinks i should just get up and leave but its so hard as dispite whats happened i still love her :frown:

Look, she obviously is not that comitted to you. If she doesn't want to stick with you and you alone then walk away.

Reply 17

HereFishyFishy

13

What on earth!?

Sorry mate, you're her back-up plan. If it doesn't work with him she'll be straight over to you. Until the next person comes along, that is. Tell her to stuff it.