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    I don't drink because I have a disorder which affects my coordination, and alcohol tends to make it a lot worse to the extent where I could badly hurt myself, even if I only drink a small amount. People wouldn't be able to tell I have this by looking at me, only if I actually told them, and I'm worried that people will either think I'm making excuses, being boring or being a snob. I do want to go out in the week, and I don't mind being around other people who are drinking. I'm just worried that people won't want me going out with them, and especially in my flat, as I really don't want to be left out when everyone is getting to know each other. I know there will be non-drinking events I can go to, and societies I can join, but I really don't want to be isolated from the five other people in my flat either. Any advice?
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    If they are your true friends they won't force you to drink. You should probably let them know about your condition.

    You don't need to drink to be crazy and enjoy life. I am pretty sure there will be various kinds of activities happening around campus to help you make friends. Also, you can help your friends incase they are too drunk.

    I will suggest you to talk to your flatmates. My sister doesn't drink either. She has coke or any other non alcoholic drink whenever her flatmates drink. This doesn't isolate her from her friends or makes her feel uncomfortable

    Lastly, take care of yourself
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    If people judge you for not drinking they are not the people you want to be around.
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    (Original post by oswalds)
    I don't drink because I have a disorder which affects my coordination, and alcohol tends to make it a lot worse to the extent where I could badly hurt myself, even if I only drink a small amount. People wouldn't be able to tell I have this by looking at me, only if I actually told them, and I'm worried that people will either think I'm making excuses, being boring or being a snob. I do want to go out in the week, and I don't mind being around other people who are drinking. I'm just worried that people won't want me going out with them, and especially in my flat, as I really don't want to be left out when everyone is getting to know each other. I know there will be non-drinking events I can go to, and societies I can join, but I really don't want to be isolated from the five other people in my flat either. Any advice?
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    There is no advice in a situation like this, all I will say is and I mean it when I say this, it doesn't matter that you don't drink - whether you have a condition or not.

    You are at university and generally people are quite mature - apart from the odd person you'll meet. It doesn't matter if you don't drink, it's your decision and no one should make you feel like you should have too. Your flat and other people you make friends with will respect you - especially if you are still spending time with them and going out and socialising!

    Don't panic yourself, you will be fine! But yeah, you'll make friends on your course and from societies if you join them.

    Best of luck
 
 
 
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