Porn and other people in a relationship.

I've been thinking a lot recently and I would like to hear some people's views on this. Sorry for bringing up this topic but I want to know.

I've heard from a few people that even when they're in a relationship they watch porn. WTF? If I had a girlfriend and she watched porn I would be very annoyed and angry. What especially disgusts me is when a couple watch porn themselves (sorry if you're one), what is the point? How can you do this? If you really loved each other then I would have thought that would be enough for everything. Look at your parents or my parents, I'd bet my life that they've never seen porn once they've married, and they're perfectly happy together. So why is it that this generation feels this need and how prominent is this, as in how many couples do this? I greatly hope I don't end up in such a relationship. I don't want it. It just makes me sick that people in a relationship watch porn together.

Also another thing, how can you live with the view that your girlfriend might find someone else more attractive? Inevitably someone's gonna say something stupid about being insecure, it's nothing to do with that, but if I were in a relationship I would hope I wouldn't find anyone else more attractive and i hope the same would be true for her as well. It's not a question of jealousy, it's just, what's the point in being together if she sees someone that's she thinks looks better. I hear of plenty of people that say when walking down the street "oh she's hot" when they're not single and it's just disappointing that that happens.

Please post your opinions about the questions raised. I'd really like to know just how common this is.

Look at your parents or my parents, I'd bet my life that they've never seen porn once they've married

Obviously there are going to be people better looking than I am. Doesn't that upset you though? Wouldn't you want your gf to think you're perfect? For example, I'd say my maths teacher was basically the perfect woman and the most amazing woman I've ever met. If I were engaged to her I can't imagine wanting anything more.

And wtf was the point of your last comment? You don't even know me.

Look at your parents or my parents, I'd bet my life that they've never seen porn once they've married,

Now to your actual points. Fine I understand that all. I just want to know how popular these views are. I just find it hard to believe that when you're in love with someone, you're completely mesmerised by them and they're the only person they can think of. I'd hoped that magic would last a lot longer.

You'll understand when you're in a relationship. It's not about blocking all other attractive individuals from your mind; instead you can accept that there are plenty of other attractive people out there, but your girlfriend/boyfriend is the one you're serious about. In a good, secure relationship, you can both still find others attractive and be quite comfortable about it, because you know that despite any attraction towards others, the really deep feelings are just for your partner. The attraction you feel towards a girl in porn or on TV is so totally different to the attraction you feel towards your girlfriend that it's not even worth comparing.

I guess watching porn is in the same mindset as cheating, really.

But then, I guess everyone finds other people attractive and can't be blamed for that. But the question is, is the problem when attraction becomes lust? Or is it when a person acts on it? And if so, what classifies as acting on it?