Help what do I do now that I have ruined everything!

Ok, I've known a friend for about 2 years now. We have been really close, I am girl and he's a boy, but then not too long ago , I kind of told him that I liked him and things have been strange ever since! I guess he was just nice by saying that I was a nice etc, I mean, I cant even have a normal conversation with him. This is killing me, I should not have opened my mouth, but oh well, I did and now I am paying for it. We've spoken, but it's not what it used to be, there are awkward moments. None of us can bring ourselves to talk about it, I wish everything could go back to normal. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Reply 1

Bismarck

Pretending that the conversation didn't happen isn't going to help anyone; you both know that it did. There's a good chance that it will forever change the nature of your relationship. If you do want to salvage some of what was left, have an honest conversation with your friend, tell him why you told him what you did before and that you consider your friendship more important than your feelings for him. This might or might not help, but it's preferable to suppressing it.

Reply 2

Lateralus

Bismarck

There's a good chance that it will forever change the nature of your relationship.

Agreed. Theres not much advice that people can give on this kind of subject, because it will change the friendship forever, or at least for a very long time. Sorry.

Reply 3

blackfish

i agree again i am afriad, this happened between me and my best mate,

it would be inappropriate on my part to tell you what i did as you may follow the same steps but with this sort of thing you need to approach the matter depending on the type of person they, if that makes any sense :smile:

soz i can't be more helpful and good luck :biggrin:

Reply 4

Planto

I don't see why it should. I've done the same thing and it made no difference. Or a positive one if anything.

Maybe I was just lucky.

Reply 5

ginag123

yeah you were, cos i told my mate that i liked him and he didnt feel the same... ****ed it up for good cos i just felt so awkward around him after that we didnt speak... we still rarely speak now :frown:

Reply 6

PhilMc

I've done it to a few people. And we're better friends than ever.

Reply 7

username47781

I said that to my current girlfriend when we were just friends and she asked me out. Think you both need to talk about it.

Reply 8

.ACS.

Bismarck

tell him why you told him what you did before and that you consider your friendship more important than your feelings for him.

Reply 9

DressMeDeadly

I think you just need to talk it through with him like many other people have said. I told my guy mate i liked him a while back and it was awkward for a few days after but then we talked about it and got over it, now we're better friends than we were previously. If you're good friends you'll get over it.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Thank you everyone for your advice. I kind of talked about it with him and he seems alright with it, but we don't talk as much as we used to, it kills me this, but I guess I brought it upon on myself, I just don't know what to do now, he's not really talking to me much....I guess I just have to wait?

Reply 11

DressMeDeadly

He'll get over it in time, he's obviously going to feel a bit awkward about it but just make sure that you act normally and show him that it hasn't affected you and that you're over it. If you show that it hasn't bothered you things should return to normal.