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    So I'm 27 and he is 24.

    During a party in November 2015, he completely ignored me and was talking to all of my family members but me.

    Also at my uncle's house for a Christmas party, he did not even acknowledge or want to talk to me, he couldn't care less even if I was suffering. He did not talk to me once.

    Also, there were other times during events, family parties were he just completely ignored me and talked to the rest.

    He does have an arrogant, bully behaviour and is targeting me, I'm not sure why?

    I'm not sure if this is because I get on well with the rest of the family and he said his mom will look for his wife while I have freedom to look for my own partner. Also he knows I am smarter than him (I'm in software engineering), will get a better degree than him (Computing with Maths).

    Perhaps he knows this and is affecting his ego and does not want to feel inferior to me so he resorts to these measures.
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    Smack in the mouth - works every time. Only thing that bullies understand.
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    If he sees this then you've just triggered him. The degree does not hold any bearing on one's future, it's all down to the willpower of one to be what (s)he wants to be. For all I know, you could be like me - focusing too hard on your degree and blocking out your surroundings, then finding it hard to get employed after that - while he's letting himself be known to the employers by putting out a portfolio of his work on GitHub, did lots of freelance coding etc etc.
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    I'm in a career while completing my degree part time.
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    I'm in a career while completing my degree part time.
    Is your career any relevant to your degree? If not, you're better off leaving it out of your CV
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    My degree doesn't have much of an effect, experience is what counts in the field.

    However, I'm still not sure why my cousin acts like a bully or even how to deal with this. It's sometimes intimidating.
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    My degree doesn't have much of an effect, experience is what counts in the field. I'm doing a degree simply because I want one.

    However, I'm still not sure why my cousin acts like a bully or even how to deal with this. It's sometimes intimidating.
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    Sorry delete this post, duplicate message.
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    are you male or female?
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    (Original post by anonymous)
    so i'm 27 and he is 24.

    During a party in november 2015, he completely ignored me and was talking to all of my family members but me.

    Also at my uncle's house for a christmas party, he did not even acknowledge or want to talk to me, he couldn't care less even if i was suffering. He did not talk to me once.

    Also, there were other times during events, family parties were he just completely ignored me and talked to the rest.

    He does have an arrogant, bully behaviour and is targeting me, i'm not sure why?

    I'm not sure if this is because i get on well with the rest of the family and he said his mom will look for his wife while i have freedom to look for my own partner. Also he knows i am smarter than him (i'm in software engineering), will get a better degree than him (computing with maths).

    Perhaps he knows this and is affecting his ego and does not want to feel inferior to me so he resorts to these measures.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm 27 and he is 24.

    During a party in November 2015, he completely ignored me and was talking to all of my family members but me.

    Also at my uncle's house for a Christmas party, he did not even acknowledge or want to talk to me, he couldn't care less even if I was suffering. He did not talk to me once.

    Also, there were other times during events, family parties were he just completely ignored me and talked to the rest.

    He does have an arrogant, bully behaviour and is targeting me, I'm not sure why?

    I'm not sure if this is because I get on well with the rest of the family and he said his mom will look for his wife while I have freedom to look for my own partner. Also he knows I am smarter than him (I'm in software engineering), will get a better degree than him (Computing with Maths).

    Perhaps he knows this and is affecting his ego and does not want to feel inferior to me so he resorts to these measures.
    I have some pretty awful cousins and what I've learnt from it is to just not give them any energy. He's not talking to you in family gatherings? Good you won't have to talk to him either. Act as if he's not even there and talk to your other family members who I'm sure are much nicer than him. Don't make him feel as if he's got the upper hand over you. Fight fire with fire here
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    Thanks for the replies guys! Appreciated.
 
 
 
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