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    I am going to be going into year 11 when I go back to school in September and I want to talk more. I know that this probably sounds stupid but I barely talk to anyone in my classes apart from about 2 people. I really do want to make more friends but I just don't know what to say to people. Inside I feel empty most of the time. When I am not at school I talk a lot but during school I just go onto mute mode. I do have a close friend that I feel happy with being around him. When I go to college next year I want a fresh start to make friends and try to 'rebuild myself'.
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    If you are having trouble meeting people you could just do what I do and set off the fire alarm.

    Then start a conversation with a random stranger like:

    "I can't believe that interrupted my test."

    "I know right, the fire alarm has been going off way too many times recently." :rolleyes:

    Etc.
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    I'd suggest perhaps volunteering at the weekends or at your school and doing something that will get you out of your comfort zone and forces you to interact with people? You could ask one of your friends to go with you.

    I used to be agonisingly shy to the point where I couldn't speak in front of anyone I didn't know well and could only use my voice in front of people I trusted. Volunteering put me out of my comfort zone and I hated it at first, but it helped me to come out of my shell, develop social skills and interact with people and make new friends.
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    dont bother, most people are *******s.
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    (Original post by Inexorably)
    dont bother, most people are *******s.
    you're only going to worsen the vicious cycle of "unsociability" and generate more whiny self-entitled *****es with that advice.

    I bet if a school dared to block phone signals and remove wi-fi, over half of the "affected" would riot
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am going to be going into year 11 when I go back to school in September and I want to talk more. I know that this probably sounds stupid but I barely talk to anyone in my classes apart from about 2 people. I really do want to make more friends but I just don't know what to say to people. Inside I feel empty most of the time. When I am not at school I talk a lot but during school I just go onto mute mode. I do have a close friend that I feel happy with being around him. When I go to college next year I want a fresh start to make friends and try to 'rebuild myself'.
    your introverted and quiet for a reason... think about it
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    you're only going to worsen the vicious cycle of "unsociability" and generate more whiny self-entitled *****es with that advice.

    I bet if a school dared to block phone signals and remove wi-fi, over half of the "affected" would riot
    My reply was a (poor) joke
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    Vodka.
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    Try get a job, it helps alot
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    (Original post by Hashtosh302)
    your introverted and quiet for a reason... think about it
    True, there's always a reason and no advice is better than this. You need to find out why you're introverted and quiet. It may happen that the reason means that you won't ever be that talkative/extroverted which is fine, as long as there are things you enjoy it's easy not talking to many people. You avoid a lot of bad things as well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    True, there's always a reason and no advice is better than this. You need to find out why you're introverted and quiet. It may happen that the reason means that you won't ever be that talkative/extroverted which is fine, as long as there are things you enjoy it's easy not talking to many people. You avoid a lot of bad things as well.
    I really do get your point but don't stop yourself from freely expressing other elements of your personality and saying whatever the **** you wanna say
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    (Original post by Hashtosh302)
    your introverted and quiet for a reason... think about it
    But I don't know why? I have some days where I think why am I here then others are better
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    Being social is actually over rated I've learnt my own company is the best.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am going to be going into year 11 when I go back to school in September and I want to talk more. I know that this probably sounds stupid but I barely talk to anyone in my classes apart from about 2 people. I really do want to make more friends but I just don't know what to say to people. Inside I feel empty most of the time. When I am not at school I talk a lot but during school I just go onto mute mode. I do have a close friend that I feel happy with being around him. When I go to college next year I want a fresh start to make friends and try to 'rebuild myself'.
    jus smoke weed with people thats what i did and i got As and Bs in my gcses truss me
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Being social is actually over rated I've learnt my own company is the best.
    When I go to college do you think I will meet people that I will get along with? Ideally people that aren't loud but not too quiet like me? I think I need someone more confident than me to help me?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I don't know why? I have some days where I think why am I here then others are better
    think harder
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Being social is actually over rated I've learnt my own company is the best.
    you won't be saying that if you were social...
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    Take it slow. Build up your confidence slowly. It will take time. Feel free to message me anytime.


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    (Original post by Hashtosh302)
    you won't be saying that if you were social...
    Having done a year of uni with a considerable amount of partying, having movie nights with friends, going shopping with friends, getting ready to go out with friends I have found it just exhausts me. I can really relax and be happy when I'm alone doing my own thing
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Having done a year of uni with a considerable amount of partying, having movie nights with friends, going shopping with friends, getting ready to go out with friends I have found it just exhausts me. I can really relax and be happy when I'm alone doing my own thing
    it exhausts you? lol, clearly you were meant to be introverted then and not extroverted
 
 
 
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