GF and LDR

Hi Guys,

Been with my gf for 6 months, met at uni, but now we are both on a placement year so from June have been a significant distance apart. I'm crazy about her, and at one point I thought I loved her. But its been so hard being away from her and I havn't seen her in a month. The problem is she just doesnt make me feel important to her. She works stupid hours though so I do understand that shes knackered a lot, but she doesnt make hardly any effort. She never txts me first, although we do talk more then txt. I'm not even asking that much from her. Just the odd txt saying she was missing me or just that she was thinking about me woul be enough, but i'm getting neither from her. I'm seeing her soon and its only going to be for one evening. The thing is things were so great when we were living close to one another, she was like a different person, and I don't want to give that up, because when we are together its good. But i'm finding it very difficult and am close to giving up, its ****ig my head up and giving me more grief that i think its worth??? I just don't know what do to!!

Reply 1

floof

its always going to be hard being away from someone for a long period of time. wait until you see her for the evening and see what happens. you may fee, as soon as you see her, that you missed her terribly and you dont know what you'd do without her, it which case dont give up. but you may see her and realise even though you missed her, it wasnt as much as you thought, then maybe you are better off as friends.
maybe talk to her aswell about how you feel.

Reply 2

username47781

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Oh yeah LDR's are very hard, it takes a lot of effort from both people to keep it up. Floof said it best, see how it goes when you actually see her soon, she maybe simply be too knackered to text you, it is probably nothing personal.