"Friends" - What should I do?!

When I started 6th form I made lots of new friends I never really talked to lower down in the school. My friends who I've been with since infant school have taken a really immature approach to this. They hate me haning out or eating lunch with anybody else, and ignore me when I'm with other people. In the last couple of months I've gotten really close to a different group of girls. They've noticed the hostility of my other friends towards me when I'm with them and now they basically ignore me. The thing is, my original group of friends all bitch about each other to me. I'm really sick and tired by their immaturity and sly nature. I found out today they are all going out tonight and aren't inviting me. I know i shouldn't take any notice but it hurts. I've known these people for soooo long but yet they are treating me this way. Should I confront them and tell them I know they are going out tonight? Should I tell them that they are all fake and bitch about each other? I just don't know what to do. My head tells me to ignore this and put it behind me but my heart wants an explanation. Please help. x

Reply 1

Planto

Your friends sound like ********s.

Reply 2

generalebriety

Planto

Your friends sound like ********s.

Rather milder than I'd have put it.

Don't go spilling their secrets, that makes you just as bitchy as them. But do ignore them. Ask them why they do it, by all means, but don't make it huge and confrontational. Do it on a one-to-one basis. But be prepared: you may well not get an answer. And in that case, you should just leave it.

Easier said than done, but it's the right thing to do.

Reply 3

username47781

They ain't your friends if they are acting like that.

Reply 4

Viridis

They feel jealous of the other people that you hang out with and by not inviting you was a way to sort of say "we dont care" when really they do. They need to know it's okay to be friends with other people outside 'the circle', oh and maybe you could sit them down together and let them know how you feel about bitching. You needn't mention any names or who's said what or that they're fake, just tell them how wrong and hurtful it is and the one's who bitch will get the idea :smile:

Reply 5

technik

pretty immature of them.

i think girls have this issue more than guys who are a bit more "flighty" anyway. i've always had a handful of mates since i was a kid who'll probably always be there but we also have other groups of mates from our workplaces or different colleges etc and it's not a problem.

for your friends to be making an issue of it is pretty lame.

Reply 6

Fire Star

i reckon they do this because they are pissed you no longer hang around with them.
they probaly feel rejected and if your heart wants an explanation you should approach one of them face on, whilst they are alone and ask what the **** is the problem. explain how it got like that and how you can rectify it. ask why she is being a bitch about it and why u couldnt come. explain your situation she'll explain hers and then decide something from that.
if i was in your position id look for the best opportunity to talk to whoever.