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    basically what the title says. Had a break-up a few weeks ago, didn't want it to happen, but I can't keep my mind off of that person. Really tempted to message the person just to see how they are and what they are up to, because i miss them so much, but I can't because I don't want to loose any dignity I have left I can't talk to my friends & family anymore about how i'm feeling I can tell they're getting tired of hearing and I don't blame them! Anyone been or going through a similar thing and fancy talking about it? I'm thinking I might benefit talking to a stranger who knows how I'm feeling... nothing else seems to be working at the moment
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    I went through a very rough break up and I gave into my temptation and messaged them. I regretted it soon afterwards and it shattered my confidence for a long time afterwards. Honestly what helped me was giving into stereotypes and sitting in front of a television watching friends while crying into a tub on ben and jerry's.
    Once I had vented my tears and frustration I was able to think about what had happened and that I am still young. There will be plenty of other people in my life and that this person was merely a chapter in my life, and no matter how good a chapter is in a book, eventually you have to turn the page and start a new one.
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    I went through a very rough break up and I gave into my temptation and messaged them. I regretted it soon afterwards and it shattered my confidence for a long time afterwards. Honestly what helped me was giving into stereotypes and sitting in front of a television watching friends while crying into a tub on ben and jerry's.
    Once I had vented my tears and frustration I was able to think about what had happened and that I am still young. There will be plenty of other people in my life and that this person was merely a chapter in my life, and no matter how good a chapter is in a book, eventually you have to turn the page and start a new one.
    sorry to hear it was really rough during my break-up I was trying so hard to make the person change their mind and I feel not only sad but like I've lost my self respect in a way too, so although I want to message the person I feel like I can't now. How long did it take you to cry it out? I've been crying everyday for weeks now and I'm just really tired of feeling like crap lol! I'm struggling to believe I will meet someone else, the thought of going through all the hassle when you takes a while to let your guard down and stuff, well, I feel like I won't be able to do that again for a long long while...
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    I know the feeling. Pm me if you wanna talk
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    PM me if you wish to talk. Breakup's are tough, but it takes time. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, grieve, so that you may heal. Strictly no contact!
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    sorry to hear it was really rough http://static1.tsrfiles.co.uk/57b1cb...lies/frown.png during my break-up I was trying so hard to make the person change their mind and I feel not only sad but like I've lost my self respect in a way too, so although I want to message the person I feel like I can't now. http://static1.tsrfiles.co.uk/57b1cb...lies/frown.png How long did it take you to cry it out? I've been crying everyday for weeks now and I'm just really tired of feeling like crap lol! I'm struggling to believe I will meet someone else, the thought of going through all the hassle when you takes a while to let your guard down and stuff, well, I feel like I won't be able to do that again for a long long while... http://static1.tsrfiles.co.uk/57b1cb...s/s-smilie.gif
    Honestly it took me about two months to move on. And now that I have, I feel so much stronger and more empowered. I joined the gym, spent more time doing the things I loved that she didn't like, such as sports and singing lessons!
    I felt horrible those two months that I was getting over her, but it took a friend to force me out of my depression and to drag me kicking and screaming back to the real world.
    If I were you I would start socialising with friends and going out, maybe even meeting new people. This is your moment to redefine yourself outside of the relationship!
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    Honestly it took me about two months to move on. And now that I have, I feel so much stronger and more empowered. I joined the gym, spent more time doing the things I loved that she didn't like, such as sports and singing lessons!
    I felt horrible those two months that I was getting over her, but it took a friend to force me out of my depression and to drag me kicking and screaming back to the real world.
    If I were you I would start socialising with friends and going out, maybe even meeting new people. This is your moment to redefine yourself outside of the relationship!
    I'm glad to hear that I've joined the gym, it helps but I feel like I have nothing else to do/going for me at the moment. What did your friend do for you? My friends are there but they all literally all in relationships except me and they can't be with me all the time to help as they obviously want to be with their partners. I've tried socializing with them as much as I can but they are all working and have plans so I don't seem them that often. I do want to redefine myself in a way, I just have no drive or ambition at the moment because of this, which is actually really odd for me! I feel like I keep getting dragged down to this same feeling I want to make my ex a bit jealous too... I don't even know if that's silly. The ex has been sending me snapchats and liking some photos of mine too in recent days which makes things extra confusing, but i'm trying to not think too much into that. I wish I could fast forward to your position lol!
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    idk if i have spoken to you before, it feels like it
    (disclaimer: i am not any of the people OP mentioned)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    basically what the title says. Had a break-up a few weeks ago, didn't want it to happen, but I can't keep my mind off of that person. Really tempted to message the person just to see how they are and what they are up to, because i miss them so much, but I can't because I don't want to loose any dignity I have left I can't talk to my friends & family anymore about how i'm feeling I can tell they're getting tired of hearing and I don't blame them! Anyone been or going through a similar thing and fancy talking about it? I'm thinking I might benefit talking to a stranger who knows how I'm feeling... nothing else seems to be working at the moment
    Hey PM if you wanna talk
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    Plenty of people already offered but feel free to PM me also. Been through similar myself and also been helping other people over PM too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm glad to hear that I've joined the gym, it helps but I feel like I have nothing else to do/going for me at the moment. What did your friend do for you? My friends are there but they all literally all in relationships except me and they can't be with me all the time to help as they obviously want to be with their partners. I've tried socializing with them as much as I can but they are all working and have plans so I don't seem them that often. I do want to redefine myself in a way, I just have no drive or ambition at the moment because of this, which is actually really odd for me! I feel like I keep getting dragged down to this same feeling I want to make my ex a bit jealous too... I don't even know if that's silly. The ex has been sending me snapchats and liking some photos of mine too in recent days which makes things extra confusing, but i'm trying to not think too much into that. I wish I could fast forward to your position lol!
    I know how you feel, I got dumped by text on Boxing day. Best way though is to totally ignore and block all forms of contact, it is only way to move on.
 
 
 
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