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    My girlfriend used to text me multiple times throughout the day for the first few months of the relationship asking what I was doing, how my day was going etc. Often these turned into long conversations in the evening and we would be forced to end these in the early hours of the morning. Obviously this didn't happen every day but most days this occurred, with little delay between messages.The last month or so has been completely different. If I sent a message before she would usually respond as soon as she saw it. Now I often have to wait up to 3-4 hours after she sees the message before I get a response. The long conversations have almost completely gone and if I am having a conversation with her she often randomly disappears for hours at a time in the middle.

    When I asked her about it she said nothing was wrong. I'm just concerned that maybe she is bored of me. Is this normal in a relationship? This wasn't an issue in any past relationships so it's all a bit new for me. What do I do if she continues to almost ignore me like this?
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    My girlfriend used to text me multiple times throughout the day for the first few months of the relationship asking what I was doing, how my day was going etc. Often these turned into long conversations in the evening and we would be forced to end these in the early hours of the morning. Obviously this didn't happen every day but most days this occurred, with little delay between messages.The last month or so has been completely different. If I sent a message before she would usually respond as soon as she saw it. Now I often have to wait up to 3-4 hours after she sees the message before I get a response. The long conversations have almost completely gone and if I am having a conversation with her she often randomly disappears for hours at a time in the middle.

    When I asked her about it she said nothing was wrong. I'm just concerned that maybe she is bored of me. Is this normal in a relationship? This wasn't an issue in any past relationships so it's all a bit new for me. What do I do if she continues to almost ignore me like this?
    She may not be ignoring, she could just be busy during the day. I wouldnt worry too much about it
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    You're overthinking it. Some of us do other things and aren't constantly attached to our phones.
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    Of course she's bored of you. You cannot blame her. You are at fault.
    It is natural. You've given her all your attention, she's become accustomed and bored. Your texts, messages and time are now of little value.
    The next stage in this relationship infidelity - be weary.

    To rectify this, you must apply dread, radio silence. You must not contact or very greatly reduce all contact with her. This will increase your value.
    She will begin to think 'what is going on?' 'why am I not getting his attention anymore?' ect.
    She will then begin making more of an effort and you will regain control.

    For now, you must apply self-discipline in reducing your contact to 0. Turn your attention elsewhere.
 
 
 
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