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    I want to find out from girls do they find asians attractive i.e indian or pakistani???.... at uni i have asked a few girls why they dont date asians and most of them replied we dont really get approached by them and even the ones that do dont know what theyre doing.... i have had many black friends growing up and have always envied their results with girls and i think it is purely down to the fact women want confident masculine men who arent afraid to approach them.....
    Whats your opinions on this?
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    Asian men go for asian women and vice versa. The reason? Asian parents will kill them if they find out that their son/daughter is in a relationship with a non asian. Actually they are not allowed to have a relationship in the first place. No jokes, i have been here in england for a month and the asian friends that i met told me this
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    White girls have lots of pre-existing stereotypes about Asian guys, but lack of confidence isn't one of them. It's usually because they think we're terrorists, rapists, stupid/unambitious and just generally dangerous people. Why would white girls choose to accept an Asian guy who's making an effort to integrate when she can just go for the white guy with whom she doesn't have to worry about those problems? Hence you need to make yourself more desirable than white guys.

    The easiest way around this is to perfect your approach to all girls, not just white girls. Make some gains in the gym, dress well, work for some success in your career and socialise regularly with girls on nights out. Performing at gigs and DJ'ing (for example) are usually pretty good ways to keep the female attention on you.
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    I'm asian and i find asian boys attractive. There not all mummies boys with outdated attitudes. As long as someone is confident then they should be ok.
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    I'm a mixed race girl (English bred), and i have been dating an asian guy (Bangladeshi) for 4 years on/off and it has been fine.. I wouldn't call him a mummy's boy, i would just say that he loves and respects his mum a hell of a lot which is very nice to see of course. And they don't expect you to look after their parents its just the respect you should have for your elders in looking after them when in ill health. Obviously its a barrier with his religion and culture but we get through it and it is not as bad as everyone seems!
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    (Original post by asif007)
    I don't know how you can make such racist assumptions like that. For starters, you don't know the difference between "Asian" and "Muslim". Only Muslim people sometimes (not always) ask their women to convert. And you think every Asian guy only does what their parents tell them? I've dated girls even though my parents wouldn't like it - you got a problem? And how would you know "asian women don't like their own kind" - you're not even Asian. No Asian would come out with as much BS as this. Clearly you have no idea what you're talking about.
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    (Original post by asif007)
    I don't know how you can make such racist assumptions like that. For starters, you don't know the difference between "Asian" and "Muslim". Only Muslim people sometimes (not always) ask their women to convert. And you think every Asian guy only does what their parents tell them? I've dated girls even though my parents wouldn't like it - you got a problem? And how would you know "asian women don't like their own kind" - you're not even Asian. No Asian would come out with as much BS as this. Clearly you have no idea what you're talking about.
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    I know many many asians who are very outgoing and extroverted and perhaps too confident. Also most don't have a problem with getting girls.
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    (Original post by asif007)
    You're not doing a good job of proving they're just stereotypes when you say something as racist as this.
    Calm down fam, we get the selection of indian girls and a lot of them look better and are better educated than English
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    (Original post by ELVsLP)
    probably because you're stereotypes are not the best.
    asians are known for being virgins, mummys boys and abusers. who wants to risk dating that? they can't casually date because their parents don't allow it, at some point he'll want you to convert so he can marry you and you'll have to move in with him and his parents and spend their lives looking after them. yeah I can see why
    even asian women don't like their own kind, what does that tell you
    I don't see an issue with being a virgin, respecting your mum and caring for your parents when they get old and unable like they cared for you when you were young and unable. Yeah, who would want to risk dating a virgin and a person who respects their mum?
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    (Original post by postexamtalk)
    I don't see an issue with being a virgin, respecting your mum and caring for your parents when they get old and unable like they cared for you when you were young and unable. Yeah, who would want to risk dating a virgin and a person who respects their mum?
    someone who wants to date a guy with experience and doesn't want to look after your mum for you??
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    I'm an asian boy and I've seen this topic come up so many times. It seems like quite a few Asians living in Europe have some sort of inferiority complex it seems that you don't think that you are really of that much value because you are Asian. Ironically, I think girls are often able to see this lack of self esteem and therefore are put off some Asian guys. Stop trying to make white girls like you, if they don't like you because of your race they aren't worth your time. You will find the right one if you just be yourself and show your self worth. Also, don't stalk and constantly message a girl you like on fb or whatever cos that wont help at all.


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    (Original post by pk789)
    I'm an asian boy and I've seen this topic come up so many times. It seems like quite a few Asians living in Europe have some sort of inferiority complex it seems that you don't think that you are really of that much value because you are Asian. Ironically, I think girls are often able to see this lack of self esteem and therefore are put off some Asian guys. Stop trying to make girls like you, if they don't like you because of your race they aren't worth your time. You will find the right one if you just be yourself and show your self worth. Also, don't stalk and constantly message a girl you like on fb or whatever cos that wont help at all.


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    (Original post by Acid97)
    Asian men go for asian women and vice versa. The reason? Asian parents will kill them if they find out that their son/daughter is in a relationship with a non asian. Actually they are not allowed to have a relationship in the first place. No jokes, i have been here in england for a month and the asian friends that i met told me this
    This isn't really true anymore.


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    For me the main barrier would be my family's religion & culture, (but I'm quite happy to move out & even contact if it came to that). My confidence is growing just by talking to girls more & more socially, & I'm starting to compare myself less with other guys. I feel the former is probably the biggest reason rather than lack of confidence.
 
 
 
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