Ending a relationship

Maybe you should ring him? x

Ah but here's another problem, he won't answer to me. So i'm stuck, it's horrible because it's all i'm thinking about and i'm trying not to cry constantly.

Any advice? Gah i'm so down about all of this, 2 years with this guy and he can't even tell me how he feels.

When things were fine between you, did he ever go that length of time just naturally, without contacting you? I mean, is he a naturally reticent person...is it out of character for him to do this?

Also Bismarck, he might still really love her, you can still love someone and know the situation just isnt practical. My main advice is just dont get all hostile and make it a bitter end, just try to make him realise running from it will only make the problem bigger and harder to solve nicely, and then solve it amicably.

Ok about a week ago my boyfriend told me he could be moving to Amsterdamn as he'd been offered a job there. Naturally i was both pleased for him but also very upset about this, and he didn't really seem to want to reassure me about our future. I spoke to some mutual friends about how i was feeling and they must of told him, for this he said i was attention seeking and proceeded to stop talking to me telling me 'he didn't know' about us anymore.

I left him alone for a week, giving him space and thinking maybe he would think about things and maybe talk to me. He didn't. A couple of hours ago i had had enough and started a conversation with him (as i'm at home we talk on msn), it started ok just general chitchat, then i asked him what was going on with us.

His response was 'i don't know grace, i hate how we can't talk face-to-face'
I then said well i wish we could as it would make it easier, but it's not possible at the moment, should i phone you tomorrow and we can talk? He then stopped talking and hasn't responded since. It's been 2 hours.

Now i know obviously he will of needed space to think, and i gave him it. I just can't keep going on 'not knowing' where anything is going. I've tried to talk to him and it doesn't seem like he shows willing to talk about it. I'm seriously upset but this along with a few things in the last couple of months is making me think that maybe he isn't worth it like i once thought he was. All of my friends are telling me he's treating me like dirt, and they're right: he is. For some stupid reason though i can't say the words, i need to end it for myself before i become even more hurt. I just have no idea how or what to say to him I half want to rant at him and tell him how much he's hurt me, other parts of me say just to tell him this clearly isn't working.

Any advice? Gah i'm so down about all of this, 2 years with this guy and he can't even tell me how he feels.

to the OP: this sounds like how i was with my ex,

we'd been together nearly 3 years when we split. He knew he would be on a placement year neat year and going home for summer. so he suggested we have a BIG talk to decide what was going to happen. the night before i told him how scared i was that we'd split up, and he told me not to worry, and that'd we'd be alright. like an idiot i took that to mean we would indeed be ok

wrong

the next day when we talked i let him speak first, he pretty much outlined everything he thought was a reason for us to split up, and iot became clear we had no future. i asked him, if he loved me. he told me he didn't know, that half the time he loved me-and half the time he hated me. to hear that from teh guy i'd loved for nearly 3 years broke my heart there and then.

my point i guess is that 1)i want you to know i kind of understand what you're going through right now, and 2)maybe you're better off without him. if he doesn't know how he feels now, then maybe its not meant to be. save yourself anymore heartache

No we would talk every day, every other day at most. I dunno, like bismarck said i'd of thought he'd of known if he wants to be with me by now i just don't know what to say to him i want him to tell me how he feels, but i just don't think he will.