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Situation with Ex - I'm confused
We broke up in May and he wanted to stay friends and since then, we've managed quite well. Since we were friends before we started dating, it was actually really easy to go back to the friend situation.
I'm out of the country for the summer and so I haven't seen him since June, but he agreed to keep in contact. I've sent him an email about once every 2-3 weeks so far and he's replied to only one. That might've been a misunderstanding as he thought I was too busy with my job to bother with him or anyone else. But just the other day, we started chatting online and although it might've been because it was 2 am for him, but the conversation was really sexually charged. Loads of innuendo and he started talking about our past and was reminiscing. He says he's sorry to have treated me so horribly (in his point-of-view anyway, I don't actually agree w/that comment) and he's really sorry. Sometime by the end of the conversation, it got to the point of 'yeah, let's have sex when you get back' and etc. But since he's not the type to sleep or even in fact date anyone, I'm not sure he's just all about the sex.
To be quite honest, I'm not sure what to make of it. What's he thinking? I mean, does he regret having ended the relationship or was he just teasing and joking? I'm just confused.
I'm out of the country for the summer and so I haven't seen him since June, but he agreed to keep in contact. I've sent him an email about once every 2-3 weeks so far and he's replied to only one. That might've been a misunderstanding as he thought I was too busy with my job to bother with him or anyone else. But just the other day, we started chatting online and although it might've been because it was 2 am for him, but the conversation was really sexually charged. Loads of innuendo and he started talking about our past and was reminiscing. He says he's sorry to have treated me so horribly (in his point-of-view anyway, I don't actually agree w/that comment) and he's really sorry. Sometime by the end of the conversation, it got to the point of 'yeah, let's have sex when you get back' and etc. But since he's not the type to sleep or even in fact date anyone, I'm not sure he's just all about the sex.
To be quite honest, I'm not sure what to make of it. What's he thinking? I mean, does he regret having ended the relationship or was he just teasing and joking? I'm just confused.
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really its hard to say as only he will know. we cant all be physcic 
if you dont feel as though you want to reenter into a relationship with him, dont do it. there is a chance he wants to be back together and by having sex he may see it as a sign of doing so.
you said yourself you dont think its just sex so if you dont want anymore than that; stay clear.
if you dont feel as though you want to reenter into a relationship with him, dont do it. there is a chance he wants to be back together and by having sex he may see it as a sign of doing so.
you said yourself you dont think its just sex so if you dont want anymore than that; stay clear.
ARGH!! GUYS CAN BE SUCH TOSSERS!! MEH!! Lol, ok, I'm trying to breathe.. Read my replies to the other post "I don't understand my ex..." I've mentioned that my recent ex broke up with me, then told me a month later that he has some form of feelings for me, went on holiday to zante, claimed to have slept with three girls, is now dealing with a girl who he met on holiday and lives locally and yet had the nerve to ask me to have sex with him on the phone last night!! And why?? All because on one of my bar crawl t-shirts, someone has written 'sex kitten' on the back of my T-shirt, NOT THAT I AM ONE!!
Bottom line: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM. HE IS USING U FOR SEX, I DON'T CARE IF OTHER PPL DISAGREE, I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
Bottom line: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM. HE IS USING U FOR SEX, I DON'T CARE IF OTHER PPL DISAGREE, I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
I wouldn't go along with it unless you two do decide to get back together but if he treated you horrible, even though he has said sorry, a lot of them slip back into their old ways anyway.
Marshall not all us guys are idiots ok!
Marshall not all us guys are idiots ok!
nik87
No, no you don't know 'guys' too well. You 'know' (or at least thought you did) one idiot.
Thus, you become as idiotic as said guy.
Thus, you become as idiotic as said guy.
Fair enough, but all of my exes and my mate's exes have done something that involves breaking up with them to see other girls or just using them for sex...
And I don't get your last part...Are u trying to call me idiotic?
Lol.
marshall123
ARGH!! GUYS CAN BE SUCH TOSSERS!! MEH!! Lol, ok, I'm trying to breathe.. Read my replies to the other post "I don't understand my ex..." I've mentioned that my recent ex broke up with me, then told me a month later that he has some form of feelings for me, went on holiday to zante, claimed to have slept with three girls, is now dealing with a girl who he met on holiday and lives locally and yet had the nerve to ask me to have sex with him on the phone last night!! And why?? All because on one of my bar crawl t-shirts, someone has written 'sex kitten' on the back of my T-shirt, NOT THAT I AM ONE!!
Bottom line: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM. HE IS USING U FOR SEX, I DON'T CARE IF OTHER PPL DISAGREE, I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
Bottom line: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM. HE IS USING U FOR SEX, I DON'T CARE IF OTHER PPL DISAGREE, I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
No, if you knew guys too well you would realise that no, not all men are tossers, and you'll know that not all men are after one thing. My bf and I are keeping sex for marriage and we're still together lol, and my housemate's worked with his fiancee through a year-long long distance relationship (England vs South America). So no, there *are* nice guys out there. It's just unfair to say all men are stupid and all men only want sex.
You happen to have been unlucky enough to have met one idiot. Don't judge all of mankind to be so.
I would take it with a pinch of salt if I were you and get straight in your head whether you you want that sort of relationship with him when you are back in the same time zone. He may have meant it at the time but there is still a while until you see eachother again and he might not feel the same way then. I can understand how the conversation got that way though, you are missing eachother and a lot of your reminiscing (common when you spend time apart from someone) will be about a time when you were more than friends and it can get confusing. Would you want him back? Even just for one night? If so, then you can tackle that when you see him next but until then I would assume you are still just friends.
He was the one who broke it off and since then I've never gotten over him. I'm not even exaggerating when I say that I think about him every minute of every day. I would love to re-enter into a relationship with him; the one-night stand thing just doesn't work with me. I don't know if I can do that and not want more. The conversation we had was mostly just teasing and we were in a joking mood, but sometimes I guess you can't help but wonder if there's some Freudian sincerity underneath it all.
Anonymous
He was the one who broke it off and since then I've never gotten over him. I'm not even exaggerating when I say that I think about him every minute of every day. I would love to re-enter into a relationship with him; the one-night stand thing just doesn't work with me. I don't know if I can do that and not want more. The conversation we had was mostly just teasing and we were in a joking mood, but sometimes I guess you can't help but wonder if there's some Freudian sincerity underneath it all.
maybe a couple of months apart will give you some good time to move yourself forward? since you don't really know he is hankering for a reunion, you would do better trying to get over him incase he still wants only friendship when he sees you again (I hope that doesn't come across as harsh, it certainly isn't intended that way)
Anonymous
He was the one who broke it off and since then I've never gotten over him. I'm not even exaggerating when I say that I think about him every minute of every day. I would love to re-enter into a relationship with him; the one-night stand thing just doesn't work with me. I don't know if I can do that and not want more. The conversation we had was mostly just teasing and we were in a joking mood, but sometimes I guess you can't help but wonder if there's some Freudian sincerity underneath it all.
Ask him. Tell him you want a relationship, not a one night stand. So either stay friends with you and stop hinting at sexual matters, or get back with you x
That's most certainly easier said than done! And he might be put off completely by the question. Some people don't like to be backed into corners.
Oh for ****s sake, you state an opinion and people pounce at you, what is this a critics page?? And please don't put words in my mouth- I said guys CAN BE such tossers, I did NOT say ALL GUYS ARE TOSSERS!!
marshall123
Oh for ****s sake, you state an opinion and people pounce at you, what is this a critics page?? And please don't put words in my mouth- I said guys CAN BE such tossers, I did NOT say ALL GUYS ARE TOSSERS!!
Basically that is implying the same thing.
Rock Fan
Basically that is implying the same thing.
No, it isn't.
Guys can be ballerinas.
That in no way implies that all guys are.
marshall123
Oh for ****s sake, you state an opinion and people pounce at you, what is this a critics page?? And please don't put words in my mouth- I said guys CAN BE such tossers, I did NOT say ALL GUYS ARE TOSSERS!!
In that case here is a word for word quote from your post which backs up everyone's response;
marshall123
I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
I bolded the 'will'. Here is the start of the definition of 'will' from the OED;
'will modal v.
1. expressing the future tense. > expressing a strong intention or assertion about the future. 2. expressing inevitable events.'
Which with the strength of the word would rather indicate that you do thing 'all' guys 'will' do certain things. There was no 'can' or 'possibily' in that sentence. The reason people are pouncing, per se, is because your opinion is incorrect, assumptive and immature.
Guys & girls, let's please calm down. Please?
Lol sorry dude... I swear though half of u will make good lawyers...So I expressed an opinion big deal man don't u have nething better to do over summer?? And no I don't, its either this or revising for exams!!
marshall123
Lol sorry dude... I swear though half of u will make good lawyers...So I expressed an opinion big deal man don't u have nething better to do over summer?? And no I don't, its either this or revising for exams!!
i think you should have sex with your ex. it's for the best.
you sex kitten you.
marshall123
Bottom line: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM. HE IS USING U FOR SEX, I DON'T CARE IF OTHER PPL DISAGREE, I KNOW GUYS TOO WELL AND HE WILL USE AND ABUSE U AND THEN ASK U FOR CASUAL SEX AND THEN LEAVE U ONE DAY.
U is a letter, not a word.
OP, ask him what he's trying to do. He may want to try again. See how you feel after talking to him.
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