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How to approach this person?

There's a girl at my work that I get on with really really well and recently I've been thinking it'd be nice if we could be more than friends. The only problem is that she's got a bf of 2 years (although it seems to me that she's only still with him now for the comfort of stability). I've never gotten the chance to even see her outside of the work environment because when she's not making time for her bf, but she's always tired after work and needs to clean house, etc etc, all that housework stuff.

I've tried asking her, as a friend, just to go out and have a dinner and watch a movie - which I've done with other female friends of mine - but she either cancels or can't make it. It's really frustrating to me because I think there's potential between us, but I'm not sure if she's the type of person to rock the boat and take a risk.

Any solutions or suggestions to my problem would be appreciated. Thanks.
Reply 1
don't want to be cynical but perhaps, in cancelling or being unable to make it, she is trying to let you down gently?...if you really want to know, i think you may just have to bite the bullet and ask her if she's at all interested. i wish you the best of luck if you do! :smile:
Reply 2
If I were you I'd wait until she no longer has a bf. You might blow your chances if you're not careful.
Anonymous
I've tried asking her, as a friend, just to go out and have a dinner and watch a movie
Why - just because you think that's all there is to attraction? You have said yourself that you do dinners and movies with your female friends. Spot anything insightful there? Don't do what doesn't work. :rolleyes:

See other people and make sure she knows about it. Never push or cross the line though; that's her job if she chooses it. And never make yourself free for anything date-like with her unless she's single.
I wouldn't try and be with her if she's still in a relationship :s-smilie::p:
Maybe she gets a sense that you want to be more than friends with her and she doesn't want to lead you down that path.