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Distraction.
And don't bury yourself in yourself. Get out as much as possible and see as many as possible of your friends and family. It's so easy to stay in bed that extra 2 hours and watch TV more than usual. Don't, just get on with your life, and if anything turn your life up a notch for a while.
And don't bury yourself in yourself. Get out as much as possible and see as many as possible of your friends and family. It's so easy to stay in bed that extra 2 hours and watch TV more than usual. Don't, just get on with your life, and if anything turn your life up a notch for a while.
Cry, let it all out, hit the wall, anything. Try your best not to contact them, delete old messgaes off your phone/comp, whatever, remove pics as well. Apparently it's good to listen to 'your' songs and that kinda stuff. Then just rid of everything. Letting go can be the hardest part. It depends on who and why the relationship broke up though so yeah. Then so stuff, go get wasted, hang out with friends, come back into reality. Just do what you like, just dont dwell.
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what is/are the best way/s to overcome a break-up?
Moving on asap. Time will tellya.
a one night stand
great for sorting your head out
i know from experiance
great for sorting your head out
i know from experiance
Whatever you do, don't sit there over-analysing it all. I did this last time and it drove me bloody nuts. Distraction is the key.
If you can't face going out, watch films. Feel-good ones, nothing depressing. I really enjoyed stuff like Love Actually during my last break-up, which seems a tad bizarre in retrospect.
See your mates a lot and talk about how you're feeling then. They should give you reasoned advice as well as lots of sympathy.
If you can't face going out, watch films. Feel-good ones, nothing depressing. I really enjoyed stuff like Love Actually during my last break-up, which seems a tad bizarre in retrospect.
See your mates a lot and talk about how you're feeling then. They should give you reasoned advice as well as lots of sympathy.
Laces
Whatever you do, don't sit there over-analysing it all. I did this last time and it drove me bloody nuts. Distraction is the key.
If you can't face going out, watch films. Feel-good ones, nothing depressing. I really enjoyed stuff like Love Actually during my last break-up, which seems a tad bizarre in retrospect.
See your mates a lot and talk about how you're feeling then. They should give you reasoned advice as well as lots of sympathy.
If you can't face going out, watch films. Feel-good ones, nothing depressing. I really enjoyed stuff like Love Actually during my last break-up, which seems a tad bizarre in retrospect.
See your mates a lot and talk about how you're feeling then. They should give you reasoned advice as well as lots of sympathy.
Lol i think if i started watching love actually right now i'd be near suicidal.
OP get rid of every trace of them, if you can't see/look/read/touch anything to do with them it should make things a lot easier. Go out with your friends and get drunk or whatever. Well unless your friends are like mine and like to talk about how great their boyfriends are whilst you're struggling to get over yours.
1) Go out a lot and spend more time with friends and family
2) Remember that everything happens for a reason
3) Try not to get depressed about it... Remember that there are many people on the same boat as you and that break-ups are just a part of life
4) Don't use others as a re-bound... Try to get over your ex completely before engaging in another relationship, otherwise you may end up comparing your ex to your new partner quite a lot
5) Don't make too much contact with your ex... It will only make it harder for u to get over him/her
6) Talk to other people
7) Go on a shopping spree.. Treat yourself
8) Be happy with yourself
9) Don't lose confidence
10) Try not to binge eat... It will only make u gain lots of weight over the summer and then you'll feel less confident.
I was in a right old state when my ex of five years left me for another girl.. But I got through it...Many people do, and so can u... Good luck and take care
2) Remember that everything happens for a reason
3) Try not to get depressed about it... Remember that there are many people on the same boat as you and that break-ups are just a part of life
4) Don't use others as a re-bound... Try to get over your ex completely before engaging in another relationship, otherwise you may end up comparing your ex to your new partner quite a lot
5) Don't make too much contact with your ex... It will only make it harder for u to get over him/her
6) Talk to other people
7) Go on a shopping spree.. Treat yourself
8) Be happy with yourself
9) Don't lose confidence
10) Try not to binge eat... It will only make u gain lots of weight over the summer and then you'll feel less confident.
I was in a right old state when my ex of five years left me for another girl.. But I got through it...Many people do, and so can u... Good luck and take care
gracie88
Lol i think if i started watching love actually right now i'd be near suicidal.
OP get rid of every trace of them, if you can't see/look/read/touch anything to do with them it should make things a lot easier. Go out with your friends and get drunk or whatever. Well unless your friends are like mine and like to talk about how great their boyfriends are whilst you're struggling to get over yours.
OP get rid of every trace of them, if you can't see/look/read/touch anything to do with them it should make things a lot easier. Go out with your friends and get drunk or whatever. Well unless your friends are like mine and like to talk about how great their boyfriends are whilst you're struggling to get over yours.
Oh yeah, definitely do that too.
But with Love Actually - nah, you'd be surprised which films help, I swear! Well, with me anyway. I mean, they've all got their problems too but it all works out. I found it marginally comforting.
Time is the only healer and keeping yourself busy.
Has anyone actually become good friends again with their ex after a few months? Especially in long term relationships you go through a lot together and know each other so well. Seems like such a waste sometimes. I know being "friends" is a very close to the line thing, but if you're truly over them it shouldn't be an issue. I'm good friends with my ex from 3 years ago, but my most recent ex I havn't spoken to because we've both been away alot since. But I'm kind of hoping we'll get back in touch soon, despite all the hurt which teared me apart.
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Has anyone actually become good friends again with their ex after a few months? Especially in long term relationships you go through a lot together and know each other so well. Seems like such a waste sometimes. I know being "friends" is a very close to the line thing, but if you're truly over them it shouldn't be an issue. I'm good friends with my ex from 3 years ago, but my most recent ex I havn't spoken to because we've both been away alot since. But I'm kind of hoping we'll get back in touch soon, despite all the hurt which teared me apart.
Spend loads of time with friends and family, find a new hobby, distract yourself and don't give yourself time to think about the breakup
gracie88
Lol i think if i started watching love actually right now i'd be near suicidal.
OP get rid of every trace of them, if you can't see/look/read/touch anything to do with them it should make things a lot easier. Go out with your friends and get drunk or whatever. Well unless your friends are like mine and like to talk about how great their boyfriends are whilst you're struggling to get over yours.
OP get rid of every trace of them, if you can't see/look/read/touch anything to do with them it should make things a lot easier. Go out with your friends and get drunk or whatever. Well unless your friends are like mine and like to talk about how great their boyfriends are whilst you're struggling to get over yours.
Likewise - I couldn't bear to watch something like Love Actually if I'd just broke up with someone. I remember when I had almost got over my first crush, every time I'd just finished watching something like Bridget Jones, I'd feel this bittersweetness inside me and by the end I'd feel this heavy loneliness that just burns through me.
And then when I went through a temporary break-up that I thought was permenant - when I heard "Behind these hazel eyes" by Kelly Clarkson, oh dear before it even got to the chorus I was in floods of tears.
How to best get over someone... I say the most important thing is don't be too harsh on yourself. It takes time - a LOT of time - and it's ok to take a lot of time. I gave myself a hard time thinking to myself that I'm stupid for taking a year to get over a mere crush - but to be honest, it's ok to take time. Give yourself as much time as you need.
Another thing - express yourself. It's ok to let yourself cry - you're not stupid for crying over "just a guy" (or girl) cus he meant something to you and that's ok. Talk to friends, family, write it out, listen to songs - whatever - I think it's important to not bottle things up and you gotta let it out.
And finally - MAKE yourself do things. Go out with friends, watch a movie, go for a walk - whatever! My thing was walks. I generally hate all types of sports and exercise but when I feel really horribly upset, I feel a desperate need to go for a walk. It takes your mind off things and you're on your own and it's nice, you know? Some kind of peace at last. And MAKE yourself hang out with friends. I tried - it's hard but I tried during that temporary break-up. I made myself go out with friends, I said yes to every invitation to go out, I deliberately saught out friends to hang out with. I didn't wanna contribute to conversations, I just wanted to sit silently while everyone else talked (and I'm usually the chattiest person there) - but that's ok too. Know that you have friends and family there to support you.
And I guess in the end, time will heal the wounds and make you ready for someone else - someone more worthy of your love
Sure you will find it harder to love next time, but that also means the love whoever wins from you will be all the more precious and special.And make sure you accept that it's over. Until the day you accept that it's over, you will not move on. So accept that it's finished. He's not coming back.
However, assess for yourself whether it's healthiest to let go I guess. Cus I refused to let go when my bf broke up with me cus he thought it's the best for me and I got him back
and it's not a mistake because our relationship is now as stable as ever. So there are times when holding on is a good thing - but be sure to realise when it's finished, and be sure to learn to accept it, and let go. You gotta move on with your life - and you do still have a life to live.Once I heard someone was saying, "you break someone's heart, and turn around bam, another person will break your heart!" I think we may suffer less of heartbreaking if you know the truth of the person who breaks your heart and you become the person who breaks someone else's. I mean when we think someone, who you're not interested in knowing, decides to leave you alone, you may feel like, "oh it's so great. She/he's gone!" Usually, heartbreakers don't suffer at all or suffer only tiny bits.
Sometimes, lust or infatuation is misguided with lovey feelings. I strongly liked some friend last year. He gave me enough time me to think it wasn't what I thought it was. I haven't seen or heard from him for many months anyway. When this friend contacted me a few weeks ago, it was like, "what now? you made me wait long enough to forget about your presence on earth completely." He's not my friend anymore. Time and distance (space) actually do make a miracle and a healing. If things were clear whether it was a friendship or a relationship, he could've been still my friend. I didn't break up with that friend last year, and it was just silence and ignoring. But, it was a good experience of closure (relatively painless break-up) with that friend.
Sometimes, lust or infatuation is misguided with lovey feelings. I strongly liked some friend last year. He gave me enough time me to think it wasn't what I thought it was. I haven't seen or heard from him for many months anyway. When this friend contacted me a few weeks ago, it was like, "what now? you made me wait long enough to forget about your presence on earth completely." He's not my friend anymore. Time and distance (space) actually do make a miracle and a healing. If things were clear whether it was a friendship or a relationship, he could've been still my friend. I didn't break up with that friend last year, and it was just silence and ignoring. But, it was a good experience of closure (relatively painless break-up) with that friend.
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