I don't have any friends.

I really don't have any friends anymore! I used to but we moved house three years back and I lost contact with all but one during that time. I found it difficult to make friends in my new area, I made some during sixth form but now that I've been on a gap year this year and they've been at university, we've drifted apart. I still have one friend that I mentioned but she lives far away, we were going to meet up this summer but we were both too busy so this whole summer I am totally and utterly friendless. I really hope that university will be better, (though I suppose it wouldn't be hard). I don't actually think that many people know how few friends I have because I have lots of acquaintances and I probably appear reasonably popular and ok. I mean, I wasn't a loner at school, I always had people around me but the thing is, they are never deep friendships so as soon as school ends/I move house or whatever then I lose contact with them. I went shopping yesterday and everyone had friends with them but I was all alone and I felt depressed. I find it difficult to open up to people so I rarely get beyond the acquaintance stage, what can I do to change this?

Reply 1

devils_nose

10

Make yourself more available, make more of an effort? It seems like friends should make equal effort to stay in touch but the reality is that one person often makes more effort than the other. Why don't you contact some of your old friends (call them, or find them on facebook if you have lost touch) and suggest a reunion? If you are looking to meet some new people, try doing some voluntary work or getting a part-time job?

If you can't open up to people then there really isn't much to do about that, I have the same problem but my friends don't expect more of me than I can give, that's what it all about!

Join the club.

Im in the exact same situation. My boyfriend has gone on this huge trip where hes gonna make even more friends and its hard to take.

Reply 4

hannah_dru

2

Same here. It seems to me like I've had less friends as I've gotten older. Now I don't really have any at all, so holidays are really miserable.

Reply 5

Danielle89

14

Since I left school in May I've barely been in contact with anyone. Makes me realise how little I actually cared about most of the people I was in classes with. Dont get me wrong, they're nice people, but at school you dont have much choice as to who you know. Once you go to uni you'll have more choice as to people you can get to know and it should be a lot nicer than the whole sitting in/working etc thing that Im going through now.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Danielle89

Since I left school in May I've barely been in contact with anyone. Makes me realise how little I actually cared about most of the people I was in classes with. Dont get me wrong, they're nice people, but at school you dont have much choice as to who you know. Once you go to uni you'll have more choice as to people you can get to know and it should be a lot nicer than the whole sitting in/working etc thing that Im going through now.

That's so similar to me, to be honest I was like, whatever I don't care enough about those guys to actually keep in contact. My only regret is that it's kinda lonely in the holidays! I guess I don't actually miss the old people I used to know that much though, but that's kinda nasty isn't it? I'm really hoping that I will have more choice at uni like you say and that I'm not just doomed to be an antisocial b****** forever!

Reply 7

Danielle89

14

Well Im sure it'll be fine. At my school there were maybe 50 people in 6th year, wereas at uni there will be several hundered people there so it should be easier to find someone who's company you enjoy at uni. Much better odds lol

And it's not just us, some of the most social people I know who I've seen down town recently seem to be in the same boat. Thing is, a lot of people are working 24/7 but I only have a saturday job and so I spend a lot of my time either at home alone or out cycling. At least Im getting fitter lol

I don't have any friends.

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