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Anyone always been single?

hi,

just randomly feeling depressed because everyone around me seems to be getting a partner temp/perm and i'm 20 and still single and always been single! because i'm shy i don't meet many people in real life cos i hate clubbing and i don't talk much so don't ask girls/women out - any men in my shoes. If so what is the solution and what is the cause? I've been told i'm not ugly by a few people. That must imply that my personality sucks right? If not what is it about me that girls hate?

Summary of me:P - i'm a rock climber/mountaineer, 5ft 7, black hair and dark brown eyes, very slim (28 inch waist), love going to museums, historical places, walking in the country, love maths and science + dislike art, harry potter. I love true crime, travelling, hate football and am very straight to the point, honest and just quiet. I am smart and faithful too and i'm a pacifist and thinker/philosophical!

Hellllpppp - am i a freak?

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Reply 1

username47781

20

No you are perfectly normal, there are lots of people your age who are single. Don't worry about it.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Your just waiting for the right person im guessing, ill say get out more to your favourite places and maybe you will find your true match there,

i've been single all my life also but im only 16 atm i guess, but just be yourself and with a few friends go out to your favourite place - doesn't have to be clubs, your bound to find someone dont see anything which is wrong with you...just that your quiet ill say talk a bit more maybe get into something which has to do with acting and drama that helped me i use to be extremely quiet.. now im ok

Reply 3

Angelic_19

2

Your perfectly normal. Don't think about it too much and someone will come your way.

Reply 4

Double Agent

18

You sound like a nice, interesting guy. The problem sounds like you're not meeting enough girls, or asking anough out. Hypethetically, if you asked out 100 people, i'm sure at least 10 would say yes. And in answer to your other thing, you are definatly not alone, stick around in H+R and you'll see that.

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

lammy

you are definatly not alone, stick around in H+R and you'll see that.

Definitely

Reply 6

Font

OP

Anonymous

with acting and drama that helped me i use to be extremely quiet.. now im ok

i dont think i can do drama :redface:

- not really my thing! and as for asking out girls whoever suggested that i've just not got the guts - how likely is it that a girl will ask someone out? Does it always have to be initiated by the guy!?! When will society change? :rolleyes:

Reply 7

sofia32

1

Im 20 next month and i've always been single :frown:

Reply 8

red.

I don't have a gf at the moment. :frown:

Reply 9

decoy

I've pretty much been single.
I mean i've had boyfriends but was never happy as i'm gay.
I've never had a girlfriend, so I guess it's kinda the same.
Plus i'm the fussiest thing ever!

Most of the time i'm not bothered, I like my freedom and doing what I want, when I want, without the hassle or the fear of upsetting someone else because they might not wanna do the same things. I do have the odd day when I think it'd be nice to be with someone.

But the way I see it is, you're young, there's plenty of time to get serious in the future. Have fun.

Reply 10

randomgirl

14

Plenty of people are in the same boat as you. Don't feel like a freak.

Sure lots of teenagers/young people do have boyfriends/girlfriends but plenty don't. I know it's a cliche but seriously, you have your whole life ahead of you!

It just sounds like you haven't met anybody who you like. Have you had crushes before? Ever asked a girl out? If you don't have the opportunity to meet girls, then obviously you are less likely to get a gf. Maybe go out with your friends more often? Join some clubs or something? Expand your social circle.

But remember, there is nothing that says you should have a girlfriend.

Reply 11

Bedshaped

14

red.

I don't have a gf at the moment. :frown:

wanna go out with me?

...

oh you said girlfriend.

Reply 12

D-503

1

matt@internet

Definitely

Was that a spelling correction or a hearty reaffirmation?

Reply 13

red.

Bedshaped

wanna go out with me?

...

oh you said girlfriend.

Get my hopes up :hmmm:

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Apart from being with someone for the exceptionally long period of....two weeks, lol, Im 18 and have been single all my life. Its weird because I do seem to get a lot of positive comments about my attractiveness and as far as I know have a good personality, because I do have a lot of friends and am generally quite friendly, as far as I know. Yet I rarely get asked out and those few that do are usually creeps-and Im not being snobbish here-for example one once spread a horrible rumour about me which upset me loads, then later confessed it was cos he fancied me and then he asked me out! wtf!

But dont get too cut up about it, you arent a freak, maybe just get a bit more confidence? I think my confidence is also a problem which makes me seem a bit standoffish, if thats even a word.

Reply 15

minimo

15

meeeeeeeeee.

And it's something that won't change :frown:

Reply 16

Nix!

11

What I suggest you do OP is stop worrying about it. That in itself is a very hard thing to do, but over time learn to focus more on yourself, what you want, where you want to go, etc. and set about achieving those goals.

Also, I don't mean to be the bearer of bad news but relationships aren't all smiles and happiness. They breed lots of hurt, turn you cynical to the point of bitterness and shatter any childhood illusions you have of romance. People are ****ed up bags of emotional crap and are only ultimately looking out for number one but then again, it may be you need someone to hurt you to realise that.

Partners come and go. The only person who remains is you, so look to yourself and find happiness that way first. Only then will you be ready to take on the chin what life/love will throw at you.

The one thing I want to leave you with is this: When you do find someone, don't go rushing in all smitten. Take it slow and let them earn your trust. Always trust your instincts too.

As for being abnormal... you're far from it. There's a lovely quote which seems apt here: Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission - Eleanor Roosevelt.

Reply 17

khil

15

Dulac84

hi,

just randomly feeling depressed because everyone around me seems to be getting a partner temp/perm and i'm 20 and still single and always been single! because i'm shy i don't meet many people in real life cos i hate clubbing and i don't talk much so don't ask girls/women out - any men in my shoes. If so what is the solution and what is the cause? I've been told i'm not ugly by a few people. That must imply that my personality sucks right? If not what is it about me that girls hate?

Summary of me:P - i'm a rock climber/mountaineer, 5ft 7, black hair and dark brown eyes, very slim (28 inch waist), love going to museums, historical places, walking in the country, love maths and science + dislike art, harry potter. I love true crime, travelling, hate football and am very straight to the point, honest and just quiet. I am smart and faithful too and i'm a pacifist and thinker/philosophical!

Hellllpppp - am i a freak?

d

Well your hobbies sound fine - rock climber/mountaineer sounds very cool. Slim is good. Museums and historical places are sophisticated and I like a sophisticated man :smile:

I'm one who's usually more impressed by knowledge and passion than anything else.

All in all, you sound perfectly normal. Maybe tone down your bluntness cus that could offend people.

To be fair, you sound like someone I could date, if only you didn't hate art :smile:

But art isn't as important to some people as it is to me, which means you're bound to find someone out there. You sound perfectly normal.

There's nothing wrong with not going clubbing. Why do people seem to think "Oh dear, I don't like clubbing - therefore I must be a freak and I obviously can't meet lots of new people because I don't club" - what is up with that? That's a load of rubbish! I don't go clubbing, nor do I drink. My boyfriend hates clubbing with a passion - he's never entered a club in his life. I've only gone clubbing a few times during my first term and decided it's not worth my money. Most of my uni life is spent hanging out with my friends in my room or in the lounge - and I'm certainly not lacking in friends and I love meeting new people. You're more likely to find like-minded people anyway if you just stick with public environments that you're comfortable in, eg, library, museums, cafes etc.

All the best :smile:

You're not a freak, so stop worrying.

Same here. I'm 17.

Dulac84

hi,

just randomly feeling depressed because everyone around me seems to be getting a partner temp/perm and i'm 20 and still single and always been single! because i'm shy i don't meet many people in real life cos i hate clubbing and i don't talk much so don't ask girls/women out - any men in my shoes. If so what is the solution and what is the cause? I've been told i'm not ugly by a few people. That must imply that my personality sucks right? If not what is it about me that girls hate?

Summary of me:P - i'm a rock climber/mountaineer, 5ft 7, black hair and dark brown eyes, very slim (28 inch waist), love going to museums, historical places, walking in the country, love maths and science + dislike art, harry potter. I love true crime, travelling, hate football and am very straight to the point, honest and just quiet. I am smart and faithful too and i'm a pacifist and thinker/philosophical!

Hellllpppp - am i a freak?

d

I just read this. Bar the dislike of HP and being a pacifist (not that I like war or anything, but life gets a bit boring if everyone's nice :wink:

you're seriously right up my street.

Oh wait maybe not. You have the same waist as me (that's embarrassing to a girlie :redface:

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