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I have my very own stalker :(
I've got a very difficult problem..basically, one of my boyfriend's and my best male friends has had quite a hard life. He had serious family issues, messed around at school, spent most of his teens getting drunk down the park, got to a very good uni (and good A-levels) but then dropped out and is working in a bar. My boyfriend and I try to see him as much as we can, but because we live far away from him now it's difficult, and our uni is also a distance away.
He dropped out to live with his girlfriend, who I've never met but now seems to be stalking me, which is really freaking me out. She's been doing it about six months - she does things like texts me randomly twice a week, phones me up and leaves random rambling voicemails, writes on my facebook wall and has now added me to her 'top friends' list ...despite not knowing me at all! It sounds quite innocent and I'm not sure if I'm explaining it very well, but because it's been happening for so long and I never reply, but she keeps on going. She also never does any of this with my boyfriend, just me - although seeing as my boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years it's clear that I'm not after our friend.
I just really don't know what to do - I'd like it if she left me alone but I really don't want to upset our friend by trying to ask her to back off. I guess she thinks it's just being friendly but it's kind of freaking me out now.
I'd be very grateful for any advice!
He dropped out to live with his girlfriend, who I've never met but now seems to be stalking me, which is really freaking me out. She's been doing it about six months - she does things like texts me randomly twice a week, phones me up and leaves random rambling voicemails, writes on my facebook wall and has now added me to her 'top friends' list ...despite not knowing me at all! It sounds quite innocent and I'm not sure if I'm explaining it very well, but because it's been happening for so long and I never reply, but she keeps on going. She also never does any of this with my boyfriend, just me - although seeing as my boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years it's clear that I'm not after our friend.
I just really don't know what to do - I'd like it if she left me alone but I really don't want to upset our friend by trying to ask her to back off. I guess she thinks it's just being friendly but it's kind of freaking me out now.
I'd be very grateful for any advice!
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I've got a similar problem at the moment, some girl who I told I didn't want to go out with straight up, is continuing to stalk me and is now making threats to me, even though now she has a boyfriend herself now. The best thing to do is totally ignore her and do not reply to her texts.
Just keep ignoring her?
Have a word with her boyfriend? Ask him why she seems so erm, friendly (read, obsessive).
Have a word with her boyfriend? Ask him why she seems so erm, friendly (read, obsessive).
PhilMc
I have one.
Oh my god, she's rang me at LEAST 5 times after 2:00 (AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!) last night!!
Oh my god, she's rang me at LEAST 5 times after 2:00 (AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!) last night!!
You sure you not got the same stalker as me
because she rang my phone about 3 times around 2.30am.randomgirl
Just keep ignoring her?
Have a word with her boyfriend? Ask him why she seems so erm, friendly (read, obsessive).
Have a word with her boyfriend? Ask him why she seems so erm, friendly (read, obsessive).
Hmm yes I have been just trying to ignore her but I thought she'd run out of steam after six months! I just don't want to tell her to back off and then her to say to him that I'd been rude to her so it would make our relationship difficult with him...
Arghh..
I'm gunna be difficult and instead of saying ignore her, I'm going to suggest you talk to her. I would normally say ignore her (I ignored this guy who stalked me and he left me alone) but as she's been doing it for 6 months, it doesn't look like she's going to give up! In her mind, the more you leave her alone, the more interesting a person you become to her. Instead, why don't you try to get to know her? Maybe she just wants to be friends? Once she gets to know you a bit, she might leave you alone. Good luck!
Anonymous
she does things like texts me randomly twice a week, phones me up and leaves random rambling voicemails, writes on my facebook wall and has now added me to her 'top friends' list ...despite not knowing me at all!
Hate to state the obvious but couldn't you just change your number and delete her from your facebook friends list so she can't see your profile or write on your wall?
kat_monkey
Hate to state the obvious but couldn't you just change your number and delete her from your facebook friends list so she can't see your profile or write on your wall?
Um..sorry but how is changing the same phone number I've had for years and that all my friends know 'stating the obvious?' She got my number off her boyfriend anyway, who I would very much like to stay in contact with
And if I delete her from my friends won't she call me up even more demanding to know why? At least she's 'nice' at the moment, if a little creepy.Thanks everyone else for your advice, it's very helpful.
Anonymous
I've got a very difficult problem..basically, one of my boyfriend's and my best male friends has had quite a hard life. He had serious family issues, messed around at school, spent most of his teens getting drunk down the park, got to a very good uni (and good A-levels) but then dropped out and is working in a bar. My boyfriend and I try to see him as much as we can, but because we live far away from him now it's difficult, and our uni is also a distance away.
He dropped out to live with his girlfriend, who I've never met but now seems to be stalking me, which is really freaking me out. She's been doing it about six months - she does things like texts me randomly twice a week, phones me up and leaves random rambling voicemails, writes on my facebook wall and has now added me to her 'top friends' list ...despite not knowing me at all! It sounds quite innocent and I'm not sure if I'm explaining it very well, but because it's been happening for so long and I never reply, but she keeps on going. She also never does any of this with my boyfriend, just me - although seeing as my boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years it's clear that I'm not after our friend.
I just really don't know what to do - I'd like it if she left me alone but I really don't want to upset our friend by trying to ask her to back off. I guess she thinks it's just being friendly but it's kind of freaking me out now.
I'd be very grateful for any advice!
He dropped out to live with his girlfriend, who I've never met but now seems to be stalking me, which is really freaking me out. She's been doing it about six months - she does things like texts me randomly twice a week, phones me up and leaves random rambling voicemails, writes on my facebook wall and has now added me to her 'top friends' list ...despite not knowing me at all! It sounds quite innocent and I'm not sure if I'm explaining it very well, but because it's been happening for so long and I never reply, but she keeps on going. She also never does any of this with my boyfriend, just me - although seeing as my boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years it's clear that I'm not after our friend.
I just really don't know what to do - I'd like it if she left me alone but I really don't want to upset our friend by trying to ask her to back off. I guess she thinks it's just being friendly but it's kind of freaking me out now.
I'd be very grateful for any advice!
Are you female...and is she female aswell?.....I've never heard of female stalking another female???....
Mmm, choices i can think of include:
A.) Talk to the boy and get him to tell the girl discretely to lay off
B.) Talk to the girl and tell her to lay off (although direct confrontation with someone like that is probably not a good idea)
C.) Just ignore her and don't ever talk to her, it's not like she's going to take a train down to talk to you in person. Get a phone which makes sure you know who's calling before picking up. Soon she'll get the idea.
D.) Put up with it, it's not going to kill you however annoying it is.
E.) Kill her, although this may put you in jail for the rest of your life. Alternatively blow her up with some missile and destroy all the evidence... but then and again that may hurt the boy's feelings which you don't want to do.. mmm... (Btw the boy description reminds me of one of my friends, whos parents divorced and then he started to do drugs and hang out with the wrong people, very clever kid though. Never made it big)... mmm... or somehow hire some hypnotherapist to convince her you're her idol or something and that she must commit daily worship to you!
A.) Talk to the boy and get him to tell the girl discretely to lay off
B.) Talk to the girl and tell her to lay off (although direct confrontation with someone like that is probably not a good idea)
C.) Just ignore her and don't ever talk to her, it's not like she's going to take a train down to talk to you in person. Get a phone which makes sure you know who's calling before picking up. Soon she'll get the idea.
D.) Put up with it, it's not going to kill you however annoying it is.
E.) Kill her, although this may put you in jail for the rest of your life. Alternatively blow her up with some missile and destroy all the evidence... but then and again that may hurt the boy's feelings which you don't want to do.. mmm... (Btw the boy description reminds me of one of my friends, whos parents divorced and then he started to do drugs and hang out with the wrong people, very clever kid though. Never made it big)... mmm... or somehow hire some hypnotherapist to convince her you're her idol or something and that she must commit daily worship to you!
After reading all these things...i think i might have a stalker???...Not sure though.
A guy that i know who lives up north and that i met a a party up north.He got my number from a friend.I'll admit iwas friendly with him at first because he seemed harmless. bUt recently he has turned abit too keen lately. He texts me alot...and gets annoyed when i don't text him. Texts me at like 4am and asks if i'm awake.
Does all the usual facebook rubbish....
Even rang me a few times at like 3am....coz he couldn't sleep.
Recently he text me telling me how he was in London and wanted to see me.Weirdest thing is...he was in an area very close to my house.
I'm getting kinda worried now.......
A guy that i know who lives up north and that i met a a party up north.He got my number from a friend.I'll admit iwas friendly with him at first because he seemed harmless. bUt recently he has turned abit too keen lately. He texts me alot...and gets annoyed when i don't text him. Texts me at like 4am and asks if i'm awake.
Does all the usual facebook rubbish....
Even rang me a few times at like 3am....coz he couldn't sleep.
Recently he text me telling me how he was in London and wanted to see me.Weirdest thing is...he was in an area very close to my house.
I'm getting kinda worried now.......
Stalking is so much more than random phonecalls and leaving messages on Facebook. Stalking is when you're too scared to even leave the house.
I know you're obviously worried, or you wouldn't have made this thread, but she's not doing anything illegal. Just ignore you as you have been doing. You can't do much else.
I know you're obviously worried, or you wouldn't have made this thread, but she's not doing anything illegal. Just ignore you as you have been doing. You can't do much else.
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