This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- Extremely upset because of 'lack of appreciation'
- Extremely depressed from how lonely I am. Not sure where to go from here
- Questions about relationship
- Have I wasted Freshers Week?
- Being forced to go on stag do
- UCL Pharmacy 2025
- Crush Diaries <3
- I feel like I’m missing out at 16 as I don’t attend house parties or drink
- Not sure if I'm just socially unlucky or too insufferable to have true friends
- Are my guy friends into me? Am I into them? HELP i need to reply to his message
- Official: King's College London (KCL) A100 2025 Entry Applicants
- My boyfriend is everything I wish I was
- geography interview at cambridge
- Did I make the right decision?
- Official: Barts and the London (QMUL) A101 2025 Entry Applicant & Offer Holder thread
- Oxford Experimental Psychology applicants [2025]
- Trinity Hall Cambridge 2025 applicants
- What do you think of adults on tsr?
- Diverisity What is missing from university?
- Physics Interview (Oxford)
All my friends going out but not inviting me because I look too young.
This is really getting me down but like every 3 weeks or so my 16-17 year old friends go out to the pubs and bars without inviting me which is fair enough because I look like I'm 12, but we're all good friends, and I feel really left out.
It seems that everyone is moving on without me. It also doesn't help that they always keep going on about it.
It seems that everyone is moving on without me. It also doesn't help that they always keep going on about it.
Scroll to see replies
Reply 2
I know what you mean, all my friends are 18 now, meaning I can't go into town with them, so I totally sympathise with you.
Have you thought about suggesting things you can do together? For instance, simple things like shopping, cinema (working on the assumption you're a girl a little bit!) or getting together at someone's house for drinks? Also, I think you would be alright going into a pub if you weren't seen to be drinking (though it's not to say someone couldn't buy them for you).
Out of interest, are you the same age as your friends? If so, it's just a couple of years until you can go out for the rest of your life and, until then, try and appreciate looking so young! That's what I'm telling myself anyway
Have you thought about suggesting things you can do together? For instance, simple things like shopping, cinema (working on the assumption you're a girl a little bit!) or getting together at someone's house for drinks? Also, I think you would be alright going into a pub if you weren't seen to be drinking (though it's not to say someone couldn't buy them for you).
Out of interest, are you the same age as your friends? If so, it's just a couple of years until you can go out for the rest of your life and, until then, try and appreciate looking so young! That's what I'm telling myself anyway
RedRose
I know what you mean, all my friends are 18 now, meaning I can't go into town with them, so I totally sympathise with you.
Have you thought about suggesting things you can do together? For instance, simple things like shopping, cinema (working on the assumption you're a girl a little bit!) or getting together at someone's house for drinks? Also, I think you would be alright going into a pub if you weren't seen to be drinking (though it's not to say someone couldn't buy them for you).
Out of interest, are you the same age as your friends? If so, it's just a couple of years until you can go out for the rest of your life and, until then, try and appreciate looking so young! That's what I'm telling myself anyway
Have you thought about suggesting things you can do together? For instance, simple things like shopping, cinema (working on the assumption you're a girl a little bit!) or getting together at someone's house for drinks? Also, I think you would be alright going into a pub if you weren't seen to be drinking (though it's not to say someone couldn't buy them for you).
Out of interest, are you the same age as your friends? If so, it's just a couple of years until you can go out for the rest of your life and, until then, try and appreciate looking so young! That's what I'm telling myself anyway
yes man, you live in nottingham! and no, you won't get in ANYWHERE at night..
Reply 4
I guess your rite I'm the same age maybe a wee bit younger, but I really don't look my age. It just gets me down when everyone is like OMG Perth was awesome the other nite blah blah.
Reply 5
And other things we do go to party's some of which isn't with that group of friends.
Reply 6
Suggest going bowling?
Or can't you go to a pub, like wetherspoons, and sit in the family area instead? I mean, go out in the afternoon?
Or can't you go to a pub, like wetherspoons, and sit in the family area instead? I mean, go out in the afternoon?
Reply 7
Anonymous
And other things we do go to party's some of which isn't with that group of friends.
Ah you'll be alright then. Also, if you are a girl, have you considered make up and heels? If done well and subtly, it can go a long way!
chewwy
yes man, you live in nottingham! and no, you won't get in ANYWHERE at night..
Don't I know it! Though I hear there's a chance in cucamara's if you beat the bouncers...
Reply 8
i'm assuming your a girl but i have seen many people under 18 who do not look 18 get in pubs and clubs etc by flirting with the bouncers!
Reply 9
Princey89
i'm assuming your a girl but i have seen many people under 18 who do not look 18 get in pubs and clubs etc by flirting with the bouncers!
I'm a guy.
One of the guys in my old class had the same problem...he just went to a different town and he get's in!
Well firstly maybe dress accordingly? A shirt, trousers/smart jeans and nice shoes can help a lot. Erm...l;ike someone said, try and grow a beard...well not a full on one...like some stuble or something.
Or you could appeal to your friends to like change their routine a bit...opt out for "less mad" nights. You don't have to be drinking and listening to loud music to have a good night.
Well firstly maybe dress accordingly? A shirt, trousers/smart jeans and nice shoes can help a lot. Erm...l;ike someone said, try and grow a beard...well not a full on one...like some stuble or something.
Or you could appeal to your friends to like change their routine a bit...opt out for "less mad" nights. You don't have to be drinking and listening to loud music to have a good night.
Reply 17
I had exactly the same problem from when I was 16 till about 17 and a half ish - At the time it was the most horrible feeling at the time because you feel like you are the one missing out. You say that they only go out once every three weeks.... I personally think this a good thing as when I was younger my mates wanted to go out every week!
I can see that obviuosly they might not invite you to go because if for example they got in but you were asked for ID then they wouldnt be able to leave you on your own and you would all have to go home.
Its a horrible situation but what you will realise is that when you are actually old it isn't that big a deal. It is a bit of a waiting game I am afraid however just remember that looking older isnt just about looks, it is about the way you conduct yourself - so if you do think about goin out and giving it a try - Try your best to not only look mature and older but also act it. Walk tall and confidently - be confident bt not cocky and sometimes that can make all the difference!
Hope you feel better about this
I can see that obviuosly they might not invite you to go because if for example they got in but you were asked for ID then they wouldnt be able to leave you on your own and you would all have to go home.
Its a horrible situation but what you will realise is that when you are actually old it isn't that big a deal. It is a bit of a waiting game I am afraid however just remember that looking older isnt just about looks, it is about the way you conduct yourself - so if you do think about goin out and giving it a try - Try your best to not only look mature and older but also act it. Walk tall and confidently - be confident bt not cocky and sometimes that can make all the difference!
Hope you feel better about this
Reply 19
In my opinion clubs and pubs are boring anyway when you actually start going to them the novelty soon wears off.
Ive not been to a club since december 2006 (excluding work) and I have absolutley no desire to go to one again. Ive not been to a pub in even longer, perhaps since last November and as I said I have no desire to go again- Although I imagine they have improved slightly due to the smoking ban.
I can also understand that it may be difficult when you feel like your missing out on something, but your probably not to be honest.
If your friends are that wrapped up in themselves though that they would rather exclude you than adapt their plans slightly to include you (what any good friend would do) then I dont think they are worth worrying about.
Ive not been to a club since december 2006 (excluding work) and I have absolutley no desire to go to one again. Ive not been to a pub in even longer, perhaps since last November and as I said I have no desire to go again- Although I imagine they have improved slightly due to the smoking ban.
I can also understand that it may be difficult when you feel like your missing out on something, but your probably not to be honest.
If your friends are that wrapped up in themselves though that they would rather exclude you than adapt their plans slightly to include you (what any good friend would do) then I dont think they are worth worrying about.
Related discussions
- Extremely upset because of 'lack of appreciation'
- Extremely depressed from how lonely I am. Not sure where to go from here
- Questions about relationship
- Have I wasted Freshers Week?
- Being forced to go on stag do
- UCL Pharmacy 2025
- Crush Diaries <3
- I feel like I’m missing out at 16 as I don’t attend house parties or drink
- Not sure if I'm just socially unlucky or too insufferable to have true friends
- Are my guy friends into me? Am I into them? HELP i need to reply to his message
- Official: King's College London (KCL) A100 2025 Entry Applicants
- My boyfriend is everything I wish I was
- geography interview at cambridge
- Did I make the right decision?
- Official: Barts and the London (QMUL) A101 2025 Entry Applicant & Offer Holder thread
- Oxford Experimental Psychology applicants [2025]
- Trinity Hall Cambridge 2025 applicants
- What do you think of adults on tsr?
- Diverisity What is missing from university?
- Physics Interview (Oxford)
Latest
Trending
Last reply 3 days ago
Can someone please help me tag Artful_lounger, i want to ask him a questionHealth
5
21
Last reply 1 week ago
How to get through the year with a teacher that dislikes you?Last reply 4 weeks ago
Aren’t you supposed to stand in monkey in the middleLast reply 4 weeks ago
I need a gap year, but my parents say no. Help?
