What the hell do I do?

Oh dear.

I really liked this girl for a long time; she's had a bf back a few months ago (when I last saw her in sixth form) and then I moved to uni, so I didn't see her for ages, until last week in fact when we bumped into each other in a club and it seemed to go well, she revealed she had broken up with her bf.

Anyway, I saw her tonight and thought it was going really well, she was really forward with me and we went for a walk for half an hour, just making smalltalk tbh alarm bells were ringing to me because I've never had a girl be so forward with me.

I thought that the time was right so went back into a club to get a drink and then time to make a move. Ran into one of her mates so I bought her mate a drink because I didn't see her for a while. Anyway, started talking to her mate and said 'she really likes your friend', obviously I was a bit disappointed. 15 minutes later and bang, my mate and her were back off to hers without so much as a goodbye from her.

I just feel used. Like she was obviously playing me just to get to know my mate. I don't know if this is true, but I just can't understand why she was so forward with me one second and then suddenly run off with my mate.

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

I sense the question you wrote in your post wasn't the one you meant. The answer to that is obvious; she used you.

As for what you do - what can you do? Go and exact revenge upon her? Refuse to speak to your friend again? She's a selfish woman - not necessarily through malice - who just wanted her own way, and she got it. Well done to her. She probably didn't have a clue she was hurting you. Or maybe she did and didn't care. There's nothing you can do... and I think you're just upset about it. You have every right to be upset, of course, but there's nothing you can do.

Reply 2

joeawful

OP

generalebriety

I sense the question you wrote in your post wasn't the one you meant. The answer to that is obvious; she used you.

As for what you do - what can you do? Go and exact revenge upon her? Refuse to speak to your friend again? She's a selfish woman - not necessarily through malice - who just wanted her own way, and she got it. Well done to her. She probably didn't have a clue she was hurting you. Or maybe she did and didn't care. There's nothing you can do... and I think you're just upset about it. You have every right to be upset, of course, but there's nothing you can do.

Yea, you're completely right. Oh well.

Nevermind, I just feel like a bit of an arse for getting used in that way.

Reply 3

billbonesknowswhatimean

another problem solved by saved by the bell. dont worry zack, you'll always end up with kelly. tell ur latino mate to get rid of the mullet n settle with jessy

so simple

Reply 4

silverbolt

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joeawful

Yea, you're completely right. Oh well.

Nevermind, I just feel like a bit of an arse for getting used in that way.

it happens im afraid, best bet learn from the experiance and move on

Reply 5

Bedshaped

14

Now dance.

*Can't touch this*

Seriously. Be glad.

Reply 6

joeawful

OP

Right, this is just getting silly. Why can't life be simple for once?

She texted me yesterday asking how I was out of the blue, which she's never done before. Being really nice again to me. Like nothing had happened.

Met my mate for a quick drink today and he asked me if I had her number; I obliged and then texted her saying 'I gave your number to him, hope you don't mind'. She texted back and she wasn't over the moon, very reserved about it all.

I'm so confused. I feel like such a cynical bastard now for thinking she used me, I honestly don't think that's the case. But I'm not getting my hopes up at all. Yet I'm not getting my hopes up that anything's going to happen, for obvious reasons.