Just a moment to get this off my chest

arrrrrrrrgh, i'm not really after specific advice (but all comments are welcome) I just seriously need to type this in an attempt to get this off my chest.

Well, a couple of months ago I briefly started working at a hotel. After a few shifts I got to know this Italian man who was infact due to quit v. soon. I thought he was really fit and said to my mates I didn't see him as bf material (because he was leaving work to travel) I just wanted to shag him LOL

However, we still went on dates/evenings out (plus had sex, alot). When he was due to leave I suddenly realised I had caught feelings and wanted this man. He left for a short while but then returned, we infact spent a week together in London. It was fantastic. Some of his cousins came over from Italy and kept calling me their ''new cousin''.

However, after the week in LDN I returned home and he continued to travel. For 6 weeks we phoned/texted constantly but we both wanted to see each other. So, in early July I booked a flight to Italy and went. I spent 12 days with him and no, it wasn't paradise. I soon found out that he and his friends regularly took drugs and drunk ALOT. The man I found sooooooo ****ing good looking drastically started looking old and just not attractive. He gave so much time to his friends/family. I'm not saying he forgot about me, or didn't care for me (he very much did care and give me attention) but ahhh...can't explain it.

Anyway, I had a fantastic experience and his friends/family were soooo nice and made an effort to speak to me even though they spoke very little English. I'm just soooo torn. I'm sat here NEEDING him but whenever I spoke about him coming back to England he would say ''January is too long to wait, isn't it?'' seriously, I can't have a long distance relationship. January? is that some kind of joke?!!! But then he would say ''you're all mine'' :-S

I can't work it out. I would love to be with this man, even faults and all. I often imagine myself just leaving England to live with him. I just wish he would say ''its over, get on with your life'' so I could. ARGGGH SOMEONE SHOOT ME.

Reply 1

Anannya

Okay.... ;shoot; :p:

But seriously though don't be so impulsive. Think about it realistically. Do you really want to leave everything you have back at your home town and move to Italy with a guy that you have no certain what future you will have, no idea if this relationship is going to last for a long time or any such similar thing. Yeah I get that his family and friends are nice but you are going to be dating him not them so you really should just take a moment step back and go through with your decisions logically. If you e feel that moving to italy won't hamper your life in big ways then you can do it. but be aware that in a foreign country if you r heart's broken later on you will tend to feel more pain because the people that you are mentioning that are so nice to you are all in some ways linked to him and you got to know them because of him so they won't be much help to support you if you have broken up with this guy,than those back home you have. And the drugs thing can get pretty serious you know. It can ruin a lot of lives. SO think about your decision wisely! Man, I sound like such an old fart!!! :rolleyes: