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    I originally wasn't going to post on here but I'm really struggling at the moment.

    I've been in a relationship for almost two years now and everything's been great. We argued occasionally but we appreciated each others flaws. Yesterday she turned up out of the blue and decided to end it before we move out to university in a few weeks. I was worried about university but whenever we spoke about it she always told me we'd figure it out, so I was prepared to put in the effort for a LDR, whether it worked out or not. From where I was standing yesterday it's clear that neither of us really wanted this, but she said that if she couldn't put in 100% it was unfair on me. She told me she loved me and that I was really good to her etc. and honestly it destroyed me. I understand she was trying to do the right thing for me, and for herself, and obviously I just want everything to go back to how it was but it's not going to.

    This is part of life, although it sucks absolute balls, and even if no one replies to this just writing this out is helping me. I just want to know when it starts to get better
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    She a ho and wants an array of meat when she gets to uni. Allow her that liberty.

    Be thankful she didn't lead you on and inevitably cheat.

    To get over this, realise that there are girls everywhere. There are no unicorn or snowflake girls. She was not your soulmate. You are not attached to her. Go gym, improve yourself. Do what you need to do. She does NOT love you.
    It starts to get better when you let mental logic win the battle over emotions. You are a man. You can do it.

    Go forth and find new women - they are everywhere.
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    (Original post by RelucBeam)
    She a ho and wants an array of meat when she gets to uni. Allow her that liberty.

    Be thankful she didn't lead you on and inevitably cheat.

    To get over this, realise that there are girls everywhere. There are no unicorn or snowflake girls. She was not your soulmate. You are not attached to her. Go gym, improve yourself. Do what you need to do. She does NOT love you.
    It starts to get better when you let mental logic win the battle over emotions. You are a man. You can do it.

    Go forth and find new women - they are everywhere.
    It wasn't like that man. I know how you could see it like that, honestly, but I know it wasn't. Whether you think I'm naive or not.

    Also, I already go to the gym.

    Thanks for trying though.
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    I know how you feel and I felt heartbroken when my boyfriend broke up with me(and I still do, I still think about him). Anyways, I think it would be best for you for guys to just settle down as friends. I'm still banging friends with my ex and I'm glad we still have the little banter we had when we were together. If this doesn't work then try to distract yourself and get someone to talk to you. Like I forgot about my ex when someone with a similar situation spoke to me and it really helped me(before my ex bombarded me that he missed me). Forget my rumbling and find someone to talk to. Pm if you want. I hope everything goes fine!
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    I know how you feel and I felt heartbroken when my boyfriend broke up with me(and I still do, I still think about him). Anyways, I think it would be best for you for guys to just settle down as friends. I'm still banging friends with my ex and I'm glad we still have the little banter we had when we were together. If this doesn't work then try to distract yourself and get someone to talk to you. Like I forgot about my ex when someone with a similar situation spoke to me and it really helped me(before my ex bombarded me that he missed me). Forget my rumbling and find someone to talk to. Pm if you want. I hope everything goes fine!
    Thank you so much Man, I think the thing messing me up the most is that someone can be so ingrained into your life and routine, and then in about an hour that can all go away completely. It just hurts. I get that'll it'll take time and I do have friends to talk to. It's just a *****y thing to go through s'all.
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    Oh trust me you will get used to it, but i promise you it will get better. So many people go through these things and i can feel the you're very hurt. If this person actually cared for you they wouldn't do this. There are many people out there who can treat you better. So keep your chin up.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It wasn't like that man. I know how you could see it like that, honestly, but I know it wasn't. Whether you think I'm naive or not.

    Also, I already go to the gym.

    Thanks for trying though.
    It it like that and yes you are naive. But that is to be expected at this stage.
 
 
 
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