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    Hey, i was wondering if anyone is in the same position,
    Im 18 and have finished my final year at college and all of my 'friends' are going to Uni and as i have decided not to, they have all lost contact with me. In school i had the best group of friends and extremely close friends i could share everything with but in year 11 i was diagnosed with cancer and all my old school friends were into partying and taking drugs every weekend and i drifted away from them as i was currently very poorly.
    Then i started college and did find a new group however i knew i didnt belong and was always the second thought with parties ect.
    I don't know why but since losing my school friends i have never been able to have that connection with someone and i always seem to be friends with someone who has a closer friend. But now i dont really talk to any girls, my only best friend is my boyfriend (with me since year 11) and a work friend but i have just got a promotion and will be moving stores and im affraid well lose contact.
    I dont know i guess im jealous of the girls i see who see their friends all the time and share their darkest secrets. A part of me thinks friends lose interest in me as i work alot but im always the one who wanted to make plans but rhe other would always be busy.
    Don't get me wrong i love my boyfriend the world and he is my bestfriend but everyone needs a best friend away from that. Im just afraid i wont be able to find new friends as im not going to uni and i know my current friends are already becoming acquaintances.. i just want someone i can call and go for a coffee with or text about the latest make up hype.
    I miss having a best friend but i feel I'll never have that again.

    Any advice is great,
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    easy solution: in your new job, start socialising with your new colleagues.
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    Thanks for the reply! I have thought about this but ive been jn the store a few times already and everyone lives far away from me, they are my friends but not people i can talk to regularly about nothing at all.. i guess i just want someone i can talk to daily and trust but none of them seem to be like that, theyre in the mind that work is work and work friends are different to real friends
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    easy solution: in your new job, start socialising with your new colleagues.
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    (Original post by Busybeexo)
    Hey, i was wondering if anyone is in the same position,
    Im 18 and have finished my final year at college and all of my 'friends' are going to Uni and as i have decided not to, they have all lost contact with me. In school i had the best group of friends and extremely close friends i could share everything with but in year 11 i was diagnosed with cancer and all my old school friends were into partying and taking drugs every weekend and i drifted away from them as i was currently very poorly.
    Then i started college and did find a new group however i knew i didnt belong and was always the second thought with parties ect.
    I don't know why but since losing my school friends i have never been able to have that connection with someone and i always seem to be friends with someone who has a closer friend. But now i dont really talk to any girls, my only best friend is my boyfriend (with me since year 11) and a work friend but i have just got a promotion and will be moving stores and im affraid well lose contact.
    I dont know i guess im jealous of the girls i see who see their friends all the time and share their darkest secrets. A part of me thinks friends lose interest in me as i work alot but im always the one who wanted to make plans but rhe other would always be busy.
    Don't get me wrong i love my boyfriend the world and he is my bestfriend but everyone needs a best friend away from that. Im just afraid i wont be able to find new friends as im not going to uni and i know my current friends are already becoming acquaintances.. i just want someone i can call and go for a coffee with or text about the latest make up hype.
    I miss having a best friend but i feel I'll never have that again.

    Any advice is great,
    Busybeexo
    Heyy, just wanted to start by saying I'm glad that you're surviving you're battle with cancer. Also, I'm in a really similar situation. The way I look at it is that if they drifted away that easily they weren't really friends so don't sweat it. Tell the people you're friends with now that you don't want to lose contact and if they're real friends they won't want to either. If that doesn't work just socialise at you're new work as much as you. If you make one really good friend the rest should come easily
 
 
 
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