Is it too late? Watch
Basically, I've known him for 6 months or so, and I'm pretty sure he used to like me, because of the way he acted and things he said and so on. It was going really well a month or two ago (before our A2 exams) and so I asked him to come to my Leavers ball, which he said yes to and came. Had a great night, and I'm sure something would have happened but I had decided and been advised that it was stupid to start something just before exams, so while being kinda like that, I kept enough distance...I guess I thought that since we had been talking about how silly it would be hypothetically before that he would realise that that was why. When anybody asked if we were going out, he would answer 'not officially', which made me think that he wanted to be. Since then there was another moment that we both kind of pulled away from as exams were still on (or at least that's why I did!) I didn't really worry about it cause I thought that once exams were over it would just sort itself out.
But now exams have ended, despite me trying my best to flirt obviously and spending lots of time alone togethr, he hasn't made the move I expected him to. I can't work out if he's decided I'm not interested from me pulling away/the mixed signals due to exams and is therefore keeping more of a distance (which he is, it's gone from being obviously touchy to obviously not - the awkward goodbyes and so on reign supreme) but still likes me, or if he just doesn't like me or is just being shy? He's not that shy outwardly and has had plenty of experience/girlfriends, but I get the feeling that was all much more initially sexual and so he could just be confused by us being friends first and he can be incredibly sweet and shyish with me?
I always presumed he would be the type to make a move and to want to be the initiator, and besides I don't know if I have the courage to come out with it. I don't know, I feel so confused and I don't think I can deal with the suspense/tension any longer...but at the same time I really don't want to lose him as a friend because we get on so well and I would really miss him if everything went wrong. One of those rare people you just connect with and feel totally comfortable with (except for those tension filled moments ).
Sorry for the length! I guess I just wondered if anybody could give me an outsiders perspective?
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Tell him tell him tell him.
I think he may be confused :O!
Okay, so I should make a move...but how on earth do I bring it up? Or should I write a note or text or something? Ack!
Initally I thought this was great, because at least he did/does like me ...but how on earth do I wait? Surely the actual likelihood of both of us still being single then is minimal? Just can't work out if I should attempt to get over him or not?! I really really do like him and understand that it's a bad time (just like it was for me earlier, with exams and several close bereavements) and I've got used to being single recently but I don't know that I can keep up liking him this much on the chance that it could happen? I can't work out if I'm being stupid thinking it could still go anywhere.
you could make the first move, lots of girls assume that guys should make first moves just because he has had experiance doesnt mean that he makes first moves. perhaps next time alone you could just go and kiss him but its up to you like someone said you only live once. or u cud write him a note or text him...