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I can't stop thinking about him

Hello there,

I've just been reading a few posts and it's just brought back a lot of memories in my mind about this guy that I used to really like.

I don't know what to do because so often I end up thinking about him and it doesn't make any sense to me. I hardly knew him and yet I felt so strongly towards him.

The thing was, three years ago I met this guy and I remember when I first met him I was attracted to him. I doubt then he even noticed me at all. But, the years went by and we used to talk quite a lot. We'd talk about future career plans, some of our interests... nothing major but I enjoyed every minute I had with him.
Every time I used to see him my pulse would quicken and every time I knew he'd be somewhere I'd just start to feel sick. I had completely fallen for him and it rather came out of nowhere. Especially as we didn't see each other often and even then for not very long.

He got a girlfriend about a year and a half ago and I remember when he talked about her I felt absolutely awful. I knew I never stood a chance with him but I guess I had hoped that maybe one day he might decide that he had a bit of a thing for me.

However, I always felt that he thought of me as a kid. When we met I was only 13 and he was almost 15.

He went away and I haven't seen him in about 6 months. However, I still think about him. I still wish that I'd told him how I felt before he went.

I don't think there's any chance that I'll see him again but I need to know what to do. I've been with a guy since and nothing's changed. Every now and then I just wish I could see him. It's not something that's around all of the time. Maybe a few times in a month I'll wonder what he's doing or wish he was here just so that I could have that feeling again.

Reply 1

username47781

20

You really need to forget this guy because otherwise your boyfriend is going to realise something is not right. That also depends whether you have a happy relationship as well mind you.

Reply 2

Rennie

OP

1

No, I'm not with the guy anymore. We split up a few months ago now.

Reply 3

username47781

20

Oh right, you tried myspace or facebook?

Reply 4

Rennie

OP

1

For what?

Reply 5

username47781

20

Well to find him of course, but if he still has a girlfriend, you can't really just put your life on hold to try and get with him if he's already taken. There are lots of other guys out there.

Reply 6

Rennie

OP

1

Oh, yes, sorry I have looked. No joy.

I have no idea what he's doing. I think more than anything I feel terrible because I had the chance to tell him a thousand times and I never did.

It was unbelievable. I remember he simply touched me once and I just felt... amazing, you know? I'd never really felt like it before and it hurt to know that I'd never have the courage to tell him.

Reply 7

Dionysus

15

He may have split up from his gf by now. If so, you're a good looking girl, so why not try to regain contact? There are sites that will help you, for a small fee. I sometimes feel the same way about someone I've not seen for a few years, and she would have absolutely no idea I ever liked her, but it would be nice to get in touch with her again.

Reply 8

Carrie1

Ahhhh the terrible "what if?".

You might have had a fabulous relationship, but you'll never know now. Did he feel the same? You don't know. I'm sorry, but you need to face facts that we all have someone who we once crushed on. Sometimes he stays with you for a long time; other times you get over them.

That's life, I'm afraid. You need to move on and live life to the full. Find another guy to fill his boots :smile:

Reply 9

Rennie

OP

1

Dionysus: Thanks, I'll see what I can do. I just wonder if he's too busy with his life now. He probably doesn't even remember me.

Once, just once, we had an evening where we talked all of the time and I thought he liked me... but that was over so quickly and then it was never the same again.

I always tried to look nice for him and everything but I feel it wasn't enough. Perhaps he just wasn't attracted to me at all?

Carrie1: I get what you're saying and I know I need to try and get over it but sometimes it is just hard, you know?

I liked him for over two years which is pretty long, considering. I know I'll never know if he felt the same and that's what makes it harder in a way because there's that great issue of what might have been.

I have tried finding other people, even when he was still around just to get him off my mind but it hasn't worked so far. I'm sure one day there'll be someone else who makes me feel the way he did but I don't know how to forget about him for now.

Reply 10

Carrie1

Yes I know what you mean, I do. There was this guy I lived for about 3 years in school. However, I had the chance to get over him, I made myself get over him and, even though he went to the same college as me, when I saw him one day, something clicked and all I could see was a friend.

Unfortunately for you he's left, and you have no way of contacting him. Therefore, in your head you may have built this image of him being this perfect guy, and can't disprove it because he's not around, thereby letting you to continue to believe him to be perfect for you.

You'll never find someone to measure up to him unless you lower your expectations. (I'm sorry if I sound harsh; it's just you do have it pretty hard so you'll have to be ruthless with yourself! :smile:

)

Reply 11

Rennie

OP

1

Thank you, I know what you mean. And, honestly, I will try.

I know that he, in my mind, is perfect and no one will measure up to that. It's just, I often had these thoughts about my perfect partner and then he came along and he was exactly that in looks, personality, interests... everything.

I can't stop thinking about him

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