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    Do you often feel intimidated when you are in a social setting with mega-hot friends ? And do you sometimes get ignored by the opposite sex because they are drooling at your friend ?

    I feel so shallow but I get really jealous, when that sort of thing happens I just feel embarrassed for not being as good-looking as my friend and that I don´t deserve any attention ... anyone feel the same ?
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    I think that all women/men feel a little intimidated by another at one point in time. You just have to be more confident about yourself really and know that you're a beautiful person inside and out
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    Not 'intimidated' by them as such, bit envious sometimes though.
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    Yes but if you act confident that helps
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    (Original post by Manon)
    Do you often feel intimidated when you are in a social setting with mega-hot friends ? And do you sometimes get ignored by the opposite sex because they are drooling at your friend ?

    I feel so shallow but I get really jealous, when that sort of thing happens I just feel embarrassed for not being as good-looking as my friend and that I don´t deserve any attention ... anyone feel the same ?
    nah i never feel intimidated by mega hot friends. (maybe because i'm mega hot )

    But I do get ignored because guys are drooling over them :p: I don't mind though. Infact I don't like randomers coming onto me. (unless they're super hot obviously!)

    If it really bothers you, can't you just dress up more to compensate? Guys will go for revealing clothing over natural good looks, after all! :p:
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    I knew a group of girls, one of which was viewed to be verging on 'uber-hot', the rest of them were lets say - undesirable in comparison.

    They became very *****y, attention seeking and extremely jealous/bitter - and to prove to themselves they were attractive became ****s basically.

    I notice most people tend to stick in groups where people are more or less equally attractive (unless you're in girls aloud and are that odd ginger chic) - it can all go very wrong and lead to some very deep inferiority complexes if not.
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    Cant say that ive ever felt intimidated, and for those that have, you are what you are. :]
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    anyone else not have 'uber-hot' friends?
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    Nope, never. But then again, I'm secure enough to not have to compare myself to people who I deem my friends.
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    i dont really judge my friends on being hot or not lol! i think it's natural to be a bit envious though of attractive people!
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    (Original post by Manon)
    Do you often feel intimidated when you are in a social setting with mega-hot friends ? And do you sometimes get ignored by the opposite sex because they are drooling at your friend ?

    I feel so shallow but I get really jealous, when that sort of thing happens I just feel embarrassed for not being as good-looking as my friend and that I don´t deserve any attention ... anyone feel the same ?
    Lol I know the feeling. My first year at uni, I was at a stage when I just wanted some male attention - casual flirting, and hopefully a relationship (don't believe in pulls or flings) - but my close friend at uni just got all the attention. I find her quite pretty, and other people so say too, and she's the playful, flirty kind who's also incredibly nice and a very good friend, who's also intelligent. And whenever she and I were in one room, everyone's attention was on her. She has this presence that commands attention - it isn't that she's trying to get the attention but people just pay her attention. And I always felt like I was the sloppy second and shadow that no one noticed or listened to Of course none of my friends thought I was a "shadow" and we're all really close friends but I still feel like a shadow sometimes.

    But then hey, I introduced this girl to her fiance, and she introduced me to my current bf so we do have each other to thank! And I guess my bf noticed me, not her and to be fair, now, his attention is all I care about
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    Hmm, so all my friends must feel intimidated when around me then? Nice.
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    My best friend is quite beautiful, and a compulsive flirt. I just feel thankful that she has a long-term boyfriend who comes clubbing with us and holds her hand .
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    Yes i understand, i feel just like that, i guess it's what do you call it.... human nature?
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    Yes, all the time.

    Once we were talking about stuff, and one of them admitted that she was friends with some of us because we were less "attractive" than her...then she laughed it off.

    Sometimes I get peed off when they catch all the guy's attention...but they're really pretty so it's not their fault.
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    I know exactly how you feel. All my friends are GORGEOUS, I just feel like the ugly duckling in the group. I sound really shallow, but it really gets me down. I look at them and think 'why can't I have hair like her?' or 'I wish I had her style'. Whenever we meet up, it takes me ages to get ready because I don't have nice clothes which complement my figure, horrible hair which I can't tame and a terrible complexion which looks even worse with make-up, so I tend to go without. But I'm glad other people feel like this and I'm not alone.
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    I would advise to try not to become bitter about it - I read somewhere that people 'peak' in attractiveness at different stages in their lives (as a teenager, in your 20s, 30s or even 40s).
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    Yeah so don't worry, you might be a hot pensioner.
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    (Original post by Fluent in Lies)
    Yeah so don't worry, you might be a hot pensioner.
    Exactly! (and your friend won't be getting any)
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    Everyone feels intimidated at some point. But truth is they're your friends for a reason and they value something in you that makes you their friend. So regardless of how people look, other people will see that quality too. It's not always all about how people look xXx
 
 
 
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