Scared of work/life

I have had several jobs now and have hated them all, every night when I come home I get really scared at the thought of having to go the next day, am anxious in the morning and then calm down by evening. Then it starts all over again the night before. I don't know what it is that im scared of I left school 2 years ago and have hated work ever since. I end up quiting, dossing then getting another job and it all starts again. Im sick of the whole perfume, make up every morning and black pants thing. Is this what life is supposed to be like or do others feel different? I also hate clubbing and friday night lol, the only thing I like is sport but I don't think I could teach it for a living, im not even good at it but just like it. What makes people enjoy life? lol

Reply 1

pikaboo

13

What do you want to do with your life then?

Reply 2

WorkHouse

12

I get really apathetic about my job all the time. I know exactly what you mean about the whole Make-up, perfume, perfume, black pants routine. Maybe you need a break - I went on holiday a few weeks back, got a nice tan and didn't have to wear make-up for work. It sounds so stupid but it made me feel really good. I HATE wearing it with a passion. makes me feel really constricted.

My P.E teachers were like 20stone I doubt they were actually good at sport but so long as you have a passion and a drive for something then why not give it a try. look into college courses or something.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I don't know, its ever since I left school really I mean we have not really had a choice for 18 years (well exclude the last 2) and then all of a sudden we do, I don't know about everyone else but Im used to being told what to do lol. I don't understand how people suddenly adapt. Ive always been quiet as talking too much gives me a headache, at school you can get away with this but at work you can't, being laid back and lazy is my personality but I know that I don't want to spend my life on the dole. Sorry if this sounds stupid or annoys anyone.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Ive got A levels but don't want to got to uni, at least im not the only one who hates make up lol.

Reply 5

username47781

20

Have you looked further afield like at a college to see if there is anything that interests you.

Reply 6

pikaboo

13

I know what you mean. I found it hard enough to adjust to being independent when I stayed on in education, it must be even harder for those who go straight from school into a full-time job. Have a think about your daydreams and goals in life and then make steps to achieving them, even if they only seem small at the time like joining a new club or making an extra effort to strike up a friendship - it'll do something towards realising your hopes and lifting your spirits. You need an aim in life from the sounds of it, and it takes time to realise what that is, but that's growing up for ya. :smile:

Reply 7

WorkHouse

12

Laid back and Lazy are probobly the best words to describe me too, well at least there the ones's my mates pick lol. My boss even knows it too but makes a joke about it, they accept it's part of my persona to be quiet for bits of the day and to be v.v.v.v laid back about things. I'm not lazy at work though as I think it's disrespectful but I have my moments where I don't give a **** and do bugger all for hours on end.

I left uni this year after about a month cos I didn't know what I wanted out of life. I've worked full time ever since I left and i've gone through the stages. I knew I didn't want to do my job for the rest of my life as it sucks a little at times. I just thad to give it time to figure out what it was I really wanted. I would say - look into the sports thing, it sounds like something really positive you've got going there. Make the most of it!

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

pikaboo

I know what you mean. I found it hard enough to adjust to being independent when I stayed on in education, it must be even harder for those who go straight from school into a full-time job. Have a think about your daydreams and goals in life and then make steps to achieving them, even if they only seem small at the time like joining a new club or making an extra effort to strike up a friendship - it'll do something towards realising your hopes and lifting your spirits. You need an aim in life from the sounds of it, and it takes time to realise what that is, but that's growing up for ya. :smile:

well I just daydream about having fun like walking, jogging through the woods, sport and climbing trees :redface:

Basically childish stuff rather then mature activities such as pubs and clubbing. I don't see what career allows for the things I like best. I do go jogging with a club but the youngest there is 7 years older than me, believe it or not all 3 of my best friends have had babies lol and another has got married so I just hang around with family. Guess like you said making a friend would be a good goal :p:

Yeh workhouse that sounds like me, I mean where do people who are not laid back get there motivation from?

Reply 9

Guy Secretan

18

I know exactly what you mean, the world of work is a cold place and school is largely useless in preparing you for life outside in the real world. If I were you I would not bother wearing make up, some girls look really good wearing it. Find something you enjoy doing like in a gym or as a P.E teacher (most of mine were lame at sports). That way you won't have to bother with black pants and make up and outdoors jobs are often more fun, I think everyone goes through a period of restlessness at the end of school or uni, Good Luck

Reply 10

Saffie

11

what do you want from your life??

Most people leave school not sure of what they want to do. So they go continue their favourite subject at uni. Which is more thinking time! It's also more time to just chill, meet people, do whatever before you have kids, mortgages and bills to tie you down.

I know it's tempting to be lazy. But I don't even think you're being fair on yourself by saying it's your personality. It clearly isn't.

Hmm... I think you need to decide what you want before we can give more advice.

Also about the feeling nervous thing, I felt that for probably the first 3 months of my saturday job.. but after that it was fine. Maybe you just havent stuck at anything long enough to get past that yet.

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