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    So this issue is eating away at me and killing me , so any advice is much wanted .

    Before a levels I got involved with someone and we had and still have a friends with benefits situation , previous to us having this agreement I would watch porn / matrubate up to 3 times a day , had random erections daily , easily could get hard . Ever since then , it has become hard to get erections and random ones are basically non existent , maintaining one is hard aswell . I went to a gp and my bloodwork is fine so hormones seem to be in check , I can't start seeing a therapist till I go to uni in a month due to GPs only being able to refer you within their district, and even then that means I will be on he waiting list for a therapist and it usually takes a couple months to actually get round to seeing one . I've quit porn and I'm 13 days in without much change , I'm going to stay of it till uni to see if it makes a difference . I'm a very anxious and stressed out person with depression , but non of that ever changed my libido till I started having sex with this girl , who is also my first sexual partner . This seems to be stress related issue to me , but that's a guess , and even if it is how the **** do I fix it ?! I'm willing to try anything , should I break it off with this girl or try to power through , any advice is seriously needed this is killing me , ive been extremely horny for 5 years and now I can actually have sex I can't , well great .

    Sorry for spelling errors this is on my phone

    Thanks for any advice
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    I would be looking at the depression and the difference between the porn and being sexual with someone who's a real person.

    What would happen if you did stuff with her that didn't involve you having an erection? Is it possible to literally sleep with her - I'm guessing that waking erections haven't disappeared entirely?
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    I would be looking at the depression and the difference between the porn and being sexual with someone who's a real person.

    What would happen if you did stuff with her that didn't involve you having an erection? Is it possible to literally sleep with her - I'm guessing that waking erections haven't disappeared entirely?
    I can chill with her and sleep but I'm still anxious. I always am , I lived with it , but this is not something i can live with, and walking erections have basically disappeared , it is literally driving me insane and making my anxiety worse . I have no clue how to relax and destress and the wait for a therapist could be quite a while , I'm stuck between a hard place and a rock . When I imagine sexual stuff I can get erect but it's slow and clearly takes effort like I have to actively try to get one , when I used to think about even the smallest thing and I got rock hard . More replies are still much appreciated and I appreciate yours aswell thanks .
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    Anxiety and erections really don't go well together.

    My usual recommendation is to have a look at one of the books by Bernie Zilbergeld: 'Men and Sex' or 'The New Male Sexuality'. The latter is the second edition of the first (the different title is because it was originally published as 'Male Sexuality' in the US...) and there's almost always at least one copy somewhere on Amazon for 1p + postage.

    Following the exercises may well stop you going 'oh no, this erection took a while to get' and go 'oh good, an erection' / enjoy doing something else when you don't have one.
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    Anxiety and erections really don't go well together.

    My usual recommendation is to have a look at one of the books by Bernie Zilbergeld: 'Men and Sex' or 'The New Male Sexuality'. The latter is the second edition of the first (the different title is because it was originally published as 'Male Sexuality' in the US...) and there's almost always at least one copy somewhere on Amazon for 1p + postage.

    Following the exercises may well stop you going 'oh no, this erection took a while to get' and go 'oh good, an erection' / enjoy doing something else when you don't have one.
    I've downloaded the book and will start reading it today , this along with a meditation app I'm hoping will calm me down at least enough to come back to normal sexual activity. But I will definetly be seeing a therapist in the near future. Any more help is much appreciated thanks for everything so far aswell
 
 
 
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