I realy need your suggestions..

Maybe some of you will get angry to me when u read my writing,but i realy need a hepl.i am all confused.i have got a relationship with a boy for two years..He is awesome and realy a fine person.But my feelings about him changed..i am not in luv with him anymore.Also i am in luv with a new guy and he has split up his girlfriend just for me,and he says me that i should split up my two yeras boyfriend too and we need each other.what should i do u tihnk?should i stay with my two years boyfriend witout loving him,or should i be with the person who i luv?i am between my luv and my compunction :frown:

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

It is spelt "love" for starters..
Well if you're in a dying relationship then I don't see what is stopping you from getting with this other fella. I know it's been 2 years, but if you're not willing to work at it, then there's no point in staying.

Reply 2

PoisonGirL

yeah i thnk so too but i am just afraid of feeling guilty or compunction..bytheway,thnk u so much for ur advice.

Reply 3

hannah_dru

I know it's difficult but I think you should try not to feel too guilty about it. You can't change the fact that you don't have feelings for your boyfriend anymore. If you break it off now then you're likely to feel less guilty than if you stay with him.
The fact that you still think he's a great guy means you could end up staying friends.

Reply 4

Ron Stoppable

PoisonGirL

i have got a relationship with a boy for two years..He is awesome and realy a fine person.

But my feelings about him changed..i am not in luv with him anymore.Also i am in luv with a new guy and he has split up his girlfriend just for me,and he says me that i should split up my two yeras boyfriend too and we need each other.what should i do u tihnk?

Don't be a tokatlanmis yesik (you speak Turkish, right?); just talk to him and explain that you'd love to maintain your friendship. Communication is so key.

Reply 5

lea164

If you don't love him and stay with him you'll only start resenting him and it'll all end in tears. It's probably best to break up with your boyfriend now, so you can still remain friends.

Reply 6

fairysparkle

You can't help it if you don't love this guy any more, so don't worry about feeling guilty. Let the guy know sooner rather than later though. Hope your new relationship rocks :-)

Reply 7

jakemittle

You should talk to him as soon as possible..
But then again, you said you dont love him so much anymore..there must be a reason why though? :/

If the guy loves you so much, hes going to want to know why..and you cant deprive him of that if you want to stay friends with him..

And you say you'll feel guilty, you cant help that, i mean he hasnt done anything to you, you'll grow out of it, but dont let that guilt be your downfall :smile:

Hope you got that? :/...Im not the best at these things :biggrin:

Hope it works out for you :smile:

Reply 8

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

Tell your boyfriend the truth. He should at least get enough respect from you to do so. Hopefully you both can remain friends.

Reply 9

username47781

You are only going to make him feel worse by staying with him, so I would end it. But I better warn you there is no guarntee it will work with this new guy.

Reply 10

.Adrian.

i would say you have to end it because without love...there is no partership/relationship in my opinion..well after sch a long time anyways

But have you thought to yourself that it could be lust you have for the other guy and its overshadowing your true feelings for ur boyfriend because he isnt doing something right or any at all??

think it out :smile:

Reply 11

PoisonGirL

Ron Stoppable

Don't be a tokatlanmis yesik (you speak Turkish, right?); just talk to him and explain that you'd love to maintain your friendship. Communication is so key.

yeah i speak turkish but i dont understand well.wha do u wanna mean i can say it in turkish,,on the other hand,,thanks for your all advices.now i feel less guilty.i told him and he was realy upset..maybe i made a mistake but time will show : (

Reply 12

*~vicki~*

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

Tell your boyfriend the truth. He should at least get enough respect from you to do so. Hopefully you both can remain friends.

:dito: you might not love him anymore, but you should still respect him, and tell him soon, rather than letting the relationship drag, as that is not fair to either of you, and will lead to resentment on both parts.

good luck with whatever you decide to do :smile:

Reply 13

h82think

Sorry about the change of subject, but the butterfly PoisonGirL has is really pretty :smile:

Reply 14

Profesh

chloe-libertine

Not being harsh but anyone else wondering what 'compuction' is?

Compunction? Regret. Remorse. Penitence.

Reply 15

PoisonGirL

h82think

Sorry about the change of subject, but the butterfly PoisonGirL has is really pretty :smile:

thank u so much u can copy it if u want :wink:

Reply 16

PoisonGirL

chloe-libertine

Not being harsh but anyone else wondering what 'compuction' is?

u re not being harsh..english is not my primary language so maybe i choose wrong word but i know compuction as being very guilty,or regretful

Reply 17

Yellowmarshmellow

It's beyond your control that you no longer have feelings for your bf, you've been together a while so perhaps it was good whilst it lasted but now you have to move on as people do, if you really do love the other guy you should be with him, it's unfair on your bf to stay with him if you don't love him as he will eventually realise, it will affect the relationship etc. Speak to him about how you feel and see what he says, tell him you'd still want to be friends etc etc and then maybe give it a break before getting with the other guy otherwise your bf might see it like he has been dumped for someone else. Anyway, good luck with it all and don't feel guilty as you can't control how you feel :smile:

Reply 18

PoisonGirL

thank u so much... :smile:

i am gonna try :rolleyes: