Posting annonymously because she comes on here.
A friend of mine who I know fancies me is coming to my city pretty soon, she wants to meet up - I have no problem with that, but she wants to visit my parents pad. I am a bit strange with that one, like I normally keep my network of friends and home life seperate for two reasons:
a) my parents are orthodox muslims.
b) Just don't want my going ons getting back to my parents. Never a good thing. Plus, if there is any girl I would bring back and show to my family it would be spouse/long term gf material. Sorry if I am a bit weird on this - quite a big cultural thing.
I suggested that she should meet me up in town - she agreed and now she is inviting me to her siblings place- if I accept I know I would have to repay the favour. Her sibling sounds cool, artistic - hard to turn the offer down. I also have a feeling that when she comes to my town, she would want to see my family home anyway. I don't want to say outright "no you cant stay over at mine", I would just feel so bad then.
What should I do, she has asked me three times about it already.
Could you just introduce her as a friend, and stress to them it's nothing more? Or would they not believe you?
If she is a real friend then when you explain the situation to her she will be cool with it, if she isn't then she has obviously read way to far into your friendship and you need to set her straight.
You need to talk to her, explain about your family, about what bringing girls home mean to them, if she gets offended then tough cookies on her, she she be able to understand.
It sounds like she has just invited herself round to meet your parents which to me is very strange. You just need to talk to her! Thats the only way you will figure this all out. It should be fine for you to meet her sibling without having to take this girl to meet your own.