Relationship at work

basically, i quite like this guy at work (and before any assumptions are made, we're the same age), we get on well etc and i've thought about asking him out. The thing is, if he rejected me, is this likely to make our work relationship wierd or awkward? so i'd like to see what other peoples thoughts and experiences are?

thanks in advance

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Reply 1

devils_nose

I have always avoided work relationships, because the whole office (or wherever) inevitably ends up involved. It works for some though, there are lots of married couples working for my current company - although it is a very big company and I don't know of any that actually work together!!

Reply 2

campbell87

You know what people can be like for rumours, 'oh so an so is sleeping with the boss' and 'i saw a and b getting it on in the lift' etc. The gossip mill starts churning when office relationships start up and when they go sour so do the people. Everyone gets involved and its not unlikely for people to leave a job because of a bad relationship and the repercussions.

If you really like this guy and you think he likes you enough back to and think its worth a shot then go for it, if you never ask you will never know. Invite him out for a casual drink or get other people to come along for an evening, get to know him outside of the office and then make a decision. Its funny how people can change when their not being strangled by a neck tie.

Reply 3

randomgirl

Arrage a group outing to begin with? Try and chat to him, get a bit closer etc at the event? That way you won't be thrown into the deep end.

Reply 4

55909

Lol i've been there done that and all though we're still really great friends, it couldn't last because of the rumour mill. By all means try but be aware of the consequences xXx

Reply 5

loz_fairy

I lost my job because of rumours about my relationship at work... be extremely careful there.
On the other hand, if you really like the guy, you could find another job?

Reply 6

pumpkin7

i quite liked a guy at work.. he was 27 years old though.. anyway, i got fired, and he wanted to meet up, so we did.. 6 months later we're really glad i got fired :p:

saying that, where he works, everyone seems to be related to everyone else somehow.

Reply 7

username47781

I meet my current girlfriend at work, over 2 and half years later we are still together, i'd say if you like him that much, ask him out maybe for a drink and get to know him more. What you got to lose really, he may feel the same. Otherwise how will you ever know?