Feel so useless

OP

Just wanted to add, I feel like I don't really have anyone to talk to. I saw my best friend the other day for the first time in ages (she's been on holiday) and it seemed really awkward, so I feel quite alone - hence why I'm posting this I guess

Reply 2

2nd2god

11

For a start there is no need to feel useless with a 2:1, doesnt show you have mediocre intelligance at all
lol the weather is getting us all down :P you think the sun has finally come out then you go outside and get drenched on
And may I ask what job you have got that pays 11.50 an hour, surley you cant be that useless if youve got a that good job allready.
And all parents nag about getting on with stuff, if you do something they just move on to the next thing to nag about
Also its only fair to ask for him to clear up his mess, if hes staying with you and your working most of the time :s-smilie:

if he has to be forced to do it seems like abit of a user.
Im sure you will get over your old bf and find someone else who is right for you.
To be honest you don't sound useless at all, I'd be happy if I was in your situation at the moment.
Hope this helps xxx

Reply 3

samba

6

stop trolling.

Reply 4

You're bound to feel on a bit of a downer coming back to rainy England after a great holiday. Your post holiday blues are just compounded by everything else going on in your life. I'm sorry your exam results weren't what you were hoping for... it doesn't mean you have a mediocre intelligence - you just didn't do as well as you wanted to. Don't dwell on it - what's done is done and you can't turn back the clock. Try to focus on something else... I'm sure you will do better next year (even though a 2:1 is great!)

It's good that you've got a well paid job but make sure you don't tire yourself out too much. When you're not working try to relax and unwind - don't think too much about how you're feeling or what else you could be doing right now. Your time will come :smile:

When you've saved up some money you can go travelling and you'll enjoy it even more because you've worked hard to have a good time. RE reading list - try to squeeze in a few chapters here and there. Easier said than done but it'll get your mum off your back for a while. Is there any chance you could cut your hours at work to give you some more free time?

Explain to your friend that you're very tired and stressed out at the mo and that it would make you feel so much better if he made a bit more of an effort to keep things tidy. Perhaps you could draw up some sort of routine? - he cooks for you two nights and tidies up every other? Compromise is key when sharing living space! Ask him if there's anything you can do to make his life easier too.

I know that being single is hard... especially when you've had a nasty break up. It'll take time to get used to being single but I'm sure it wont last very long. Take some time out to sort out what you want and try to forget about what it would be like if a new bloke was on the scene. Chances are he'd get in the way right now! - what with work, reading list and feeling tired most of the time. This guy that has gone to York might be well worth the wait? Try not to think about him too much... it'll only make you miserable and difficult to be around.

Your life isn't lame - you've worked hard this year. Don't be so hard on yourself. Make a list of everything you have achieved this year (including your grade) and don't down play what you've done or compare your life to those around you. You've got plenty to look forward to I'm sure. Just try to focus on the positives and list every good thing/person in your life. Focusing on the good will cheer you up a little...even if the bad outweighs the good right now. :smile:

Reply 5

Angrybanana

11

I want a 2:1. I would also like a job, especially one that pays £11.50 an hour! How useless must I be in your eyes? :rolleyes:

As for the weather, you seem to be forgetting that the rest of the country has to put up with it as well, including people who have lost their homes and possessions because of the flooding. Things could be a lot worse, you are better off than a lot of people so quit complaining. You need perspective rather than advice. And you know it, which I suspect is why you have posted as anon.

EDIT: I also notice that you've just returned from 'a fantastic week's holiday with a friend', you poor lamb. I haven't had a holiday in three years but I get by. Grow up.

Reply 6

Really!!

samba

stop trolling.

How do you know "she is trolling"? :mad:

Reply 7

erk

14

You sound like a random girl i spoke to tha other day in covent garden.

anyway.

fix up.

Reply 8

OP

What is trolling...?

Reply 9

Anon - how are you feeling today? Any better? I don't know what the weather is like where you are but it's sunny here :biggrin:

Not sure how long it'll last though. Have a nice day at work... just think of the money!! Keep your hopes up, you wont feel like this forever :smile:

Reply 10

Trolling: Deliberately provoking an argument with no other intent than to gain attention for the sake of attention.

I don't believe the poster is doing this.

Reply 11

OP

I'm not trolling - I didn't think I was provoking an argument. I thought trolling might mean prostitution, you know, a troll being a random word for a prostitute... I would like to point out that my job is not prostitution! I am feeling okay - very tired, I didn't sleep well, but I'm glad it's almost the weekend and I can relax a bit, maybe even start on the reading list! I think yesterday evening was particularly disheartening because my friend suddenly announced he was going to the cinema with his partner when we had been planning to watch a dvd together, so I was just by myself moping

Reply 12

Angrybanana

I want a 2:1. I would also like a job, especially one that pays £11.50 an hour! How useless must I be in your eyes? :rolleyes:

As for the weather, you seem to be forgetting that the rest of the country has to put up with it as well, including people who have lost their homes and possessions because of the flooding. Things could be a lot worse, you are better off than a lot of people so quit complaining. You need perspective rather than advice. And you know it, which I suspect is why you have posted as anon.

EDIT: I also notice that you've just returned from 'a fantastic week's holiday with a friend', you poor lamb. I haven't had a holiday in three years but I get by. Grow up.

I can see where you are coming from but she's obviously distressed about her current situation (disappointment, tiredness, stress and feeling lonely). It's not nice to feel useless… however minor a persons problems may appear in comparison to those 'worse off' (we shouldn't really compare but there we go). I'd like a holiday too… *dreams*…

Reply 13

Take it easy this weekend and see how you go. Try to be happy for your friend - he may have let you down but you might have done the same if you had a boyfriend. Don't mope. Like I said before... try to think of the positives.

Just out of curiosity, what job do you have? I'm looking for a full time job at the mo and I'd love to be earning as much as you are! It's double most of the job offers I've come across in the past few weeks.

Reply 14

OP

My job is teaching English literature to French students in individual tutorials. I don't have a TEFL qualification or anything similar though. I was working at this language school on the leisure progamme and when I found out you didn't have to have a teaching qualification to teach I asked for an interview and they gave me a job. It's worth going in and enquiring if there are any language schools in your area

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