I need some relationship advice....

So Iv been with my boyfriend now for 14 months. And for the past week we've been a bit rocky, and we went to this party and for the sake of our relationship I asked him not to take drugs and he did. He lied about it, broke a promise and then panicked and tried to breakup with me. Were good now I guess. But he said I can be controlling, but I'm not I just care. He wants to go on a lads holiday next year (being 18) and although I'm not comfortable with it he's going away, and I told him to have a good time. I sometimes feel he does stuff to just be a "lad" and "fit in". He was never like this when I first met him and now I just don't know what to do. Plus we don't do that much when we see each other, it's always the same thing. We both love each other so i just need advice, like how to spice up the relationship slightly? Or just make it a little better. I know this can work I just don't know what to do

So Iv been with my boyfriend now for 14 months. And for the past week we've been a bit rocky, and we went to this party and for the sake of our relationship I asked him not to take drugs and he did. He lied about it, broke a promise and then panicked and tried to breakup with me. Were good now I guess. But he said I can be controlling, but I'm not I just care. He wants to go on a lads holiday next year (being 18) and although I'm not comfortable with it he's going away, and I told him to have a good time. I sometimes feel he does stuff to just be a "lad" and "fit in". He was never like this when I first met him and now I just don't know what to do. Plus we don't do that much when we see each other, it's always the same thing. We both love each other so i just need advice, like how to spice up the relationship slightly? Or just make it a little better. I know this can work I just don't know what to do

So Iv been with my boyfriend now for 14 months. And for the past week we've been a bit rocky, and we went to this party and for the sake of our relationship I asked him not to take drugs and he did. He lied about it, broke a promise and then panicked and tried to breakup with me. Were good now I guess. But he said I can be controlling, but I'm not I just care. He wants to go on a lads holiday next year (being 18) and although I'm not comfortable with it he's going away, and I told him to have a good time. I sometimes feel he does stuff to just be a "lad" and "fit in". He was never like this when I first met him and now I just don't know what to do. Plus we don't do that much when we see each other, it's always the same thing. We both love each other so i just need advice, like how to spice up the relationship slightly? Or just make it a little better. I know this can work I just don't know what to do

You say he loves you yet he breaks his promises and knowingly makes you uncomfortable... If he truly loved you he would not lie, would prioritise his relationship with you over fitting in, or at least put your mind at ease. You say that you can make it work too, but what if this continues for years and you slowly become miserable ?

I know and he said he wouldn't do it again. He just wants me to let him do what he wants, but he said he would never cheat and I believe him. I just don't know why he's wanting to go on the lads holiday so badly? And I don't know why he would lie Or make me feel uncomfortable, I feel like I trust him slightly less, I'm trying really hard and I don't know what to do

Well this isn't how a relationship should be. It's normal for him to want to do his own thing, independence and trust are important here but even if he does his own thing, he shouldn't hurt you. Maybe you two are just too different to be together.
The lads holiday, as a guy i'll say this doesn't sound great. Was it his idea ?

You dont love each other. Nothing credible is going to come of your relationship.

It's just your turn with him. It's just his turn with you.

You'll be unto new people soon.

Just keep banging until one of you gets bored or cheats.

Hate to say it but I agree with RooshV here, apart from the last banging part... If you want that, go ahead but I think it's immature of RooshV to just assume everyone's desperate for sex.

So Iv been with my boyfriend now for 14 months. And for the past week we've been a bit rocky, and we went to this party and for the sake of our relationship I asked him not to take drugs and he did. He lied about it, broke a promise and then panicked and tried to breakup with me. Were good now I guess. But he said I can be controlling, but I'm not I just care. He wants to go on a lads holiday next year (being 18) and although I'm not comfortable with it he's going away, and I told him to have a good time. I sometimes feel he does stuff to just be a "lad" and "fit in". He was never like this when I first met him and now I just don't know what to do. Plus we don't do that much when we see each other, it's always the same thing. We both love each other so i just need advice, like how to spice up the relationship slightly? Or just make it a little better. I know this can work I just don't know what to do