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    ...that person who seems so unattainable? :[

    I know this post is very vague - I'm not sure what else to write right now, but I knew I had to write something - and I did toy with the idea of posting anonymously but I decided against it.

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    Depends entirely on the situation, why are they unattainable? Do they seem out of your league? Is there a friendship or something else there? Are they just not interested?
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    Note the word "seems" - that means "it's all in your head."

    Whoever the person is, he/she is only human, with human feelings and human reactions and a human past with human flaws. He/she is not perfect, is not the most beautiful person alive, is not the most amazing person alive. He/she is just human, and it happens to be a human you like, so you're simply nervous.

    Now knowing that he/she IS human and not an angel or a god/goddess, you can muster the courage to approach him/her. Once you've done that, develop a friendship and go from there.

    However if this is a case where the person has said "No I don't feel that way about you" - then he/she IS unattainable, and not just "seems" so - he/she IS - so give it up and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea and one who actually wants you and may be better for you.
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    get them pregnant, go on jeremy kyle and he'll sort it for you.
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    get them pregnant, go on jeremy kyle and he'll sort it for you.
    Ahh, middle class anger being thrown at you on national TV - Just screams "Respect me as a person", doesn't it?
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    (Original post by grammar_king)
    Depends entirely on the situation, why are they unattainable? Do they seem out of your league? Is there a friendship or something else there? Are they just not interested?
    It's so confusing even in my own head, so I pity all those that will read this. LOL.

    In a sense, yes, they do feel very much outta my league, but this person can barely see their own worth, if they even can at all; you know the kinda people who you think of very highly but who just don't believe it in themselves? There is also a friendship there, not only between myself and this person, but also a good/old friend of mine and them; the friendship between the latter being slightly more so, but, complicated. I suppose with all of what I've already said, you could say that they aren't interested, but I really don't know that for sure, it's just what the calculation gives me.

    I feel quite silly for this, but oh well.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Note the word "seems" - that means "it's all in your head."

    Whoever the person is, he/she is only human, with human feelings and human reactions and a human past with human flaws. He/she is not perfect, is not the most beautiful person alive, is not the most amazing person alive. He/she is just human, and it happens to be a human you like, so you're simply nervous.

    Now knowing that he/she IS human and not an angel or a god/goddess, you can muster the courage to approach him/her. Once you've done that, develop a friendship and go from there.

    However if this is a case where the person has said "No I don't feel that way about you" - then he/she IS unattainable, and not just "seems" so - he/she IS - so give it up and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea and one who actually wants you and may be better for you.
    I actually love that (what I've highlighted), but I just wish I could believe it.

    I do agree with what you said in the second paragraph, no matter how much I do think this person is awesome, etc. Everyone thinks it about someone, it's kinda natural I guess.

    In a way, I'd feel quite sad if it was an "I don't feel that way about you" case but atleast then I would know, 'cos I think it's the not knowing that gets to me, but it's not as simple as some might make out to just come out with the subject. There's a lot to consider and even more - our friendship - at stake.
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    (Original post by ForeverIsMyName)
    Ahh, middle class anger being thrown at you on national TV - Just screams "Respect me as a person", doesn't it?
    Well - sadly Kilroy is no longer around to represent the disgruntled middle classes, so we're stuck with "jezza" and "trisha"...although if you want to watch a ridiculous schpiel of human dregs see "maury" (it's american...)
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    get them pregnant, go on jeremy kyle and he'll sort it for you.
    It's a shame I lack the equipment. ;]
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    (Original post by bloodredbeat)
    It's a shame I lack the equipment. ;]
    My apologies - get pregnant by them, go on jeremy kyle and he'll sort it for you.

    That better?
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    My apologies - get pregnant by them, go on jeremy kyle and he'll sort it for you.

    That better?
    No; all involved are female.

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    good lord young people are so confusing.

    All else I can suggest is kidnap and imprisonment - not too helpful a suggestion, I'm sure...
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    good lord young people are so confusing.

    All else I can suggest is kidnap and imprisonment - not too helpful a suggestion, I'm sure...
    <3

    Oh believe me it's a much better suggestion than impregnation. LOL. This part of the conversation has cheered me up slightly, so thanx.
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    Well - sadly Kilroy is no longer around to represent the disgruntled middle classes, so we're stuck with "jezza" and "trisha"...although if you want to watch a ridiculous schpiel of human dregs see "maury" (it's american...)
    Are you kidding? Maury is awesome!

    Best clip ever!
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    quite alright.

    On a more serious note, I would recommend being honest with the individual, as it will bear fruition in the long term.
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    LOL.

    Sorry, just read through the entire thread and laughed at the "every1s a girl" bit.

    Umm...I crack a few jokes, if the girl doesn't laugh (like a proper laugh, not a meh..he..he laugh) then she sucks and I'm never ever getting nookie, so I move on to the next person.
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    No broadband personally, but if it's of the 15 year old hooker/pregnant to be.etc., then, yes - glorious!
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    (Original post by bikerx23)
    quite alright.

    On a more serious note, I would recommend being honest with the individual, as it will bear fruition in the long term.
    ...or it won't. :[

    I apologise. I am so very appreciative of all the advice I'm getting, and I know that I basically did ask for advice, but tonight my head is on the side I like to call reality...
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    (Original post by Bedshaped)
    LOL.

    Sorry, just read through the entire thread and laughed at the "every1s a girl" bit.

    Umm...I crack a few jokes, if the girl doesn't laugh (like a proper laugh, not a meh..he..he laugh) then she sucks and I'm never ever getting nookie, so I move on to the next person.
    ;]

    We do get on really well, in my opinion. When we met the first time things were slightly awkward for all of five or ten minutes, then we got on like a house on fire for the entire night. We talk one hell of a lot. I think what's bothering me most is not only that I risk our friendship, but that there is someone else kinda involved too.
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    (Original post by bloodredbeat)
    ...or it won't. :[

    I apologise. I am so very appreciative of all the advice I'm getting, and I know that I basically did ask for advice, but tonight my head is on the side I like to call reality...
    bah! **** reality - if I had been realistic I would've been single for the past year, as long (in this case) you know you're not "barking up the wrong tree", so to speak, be honest and go for it - worked for me, surprisingly well.
 
 
 
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