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    my brother, he's 9 and has homophobic views. I asked him about what he thinks of gay people because he can now grasp the concept of girl friend/boy friends. i asked him what he thinks of a boy loving another boy and he frowns and said it's weird.

    I had to explain to him that he needs to be more accepting, explained that just like he didn't choose his hair colour, skin colour, and eye colour, gay people can't help being homosexual.

    My parents are homophobics but they dont talk about it, my mum sometimes jokingly tell my brother that certain things are for girls like toys and just the general distinction between a boy and a girl's interests. but never have they preached about homophobia.

    I wonder where he gets this view from, he is firm when it comes to blue for boy and pink for girls. im really disappointed, i thought homophobia would end with my parents generation in this family, but it seems my brother will carry it on, I tried to convince him that being gay is ok even if he didnt like gay people...dont know where to go from here.
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    Hes entitled to his own opinion, just teach him to not say homophobic speech in public or to other people.

    Anyways he is young and his views might change in the future
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    All he said was that he thinks it's weird, perhaps you're expecting too much from a 9-year-old.
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    (Original post by SuperHuman98)
    Hes entitled to his own opinion, just teach him to not say homophobic speech in public or to other people.

    Anyways he is young and his views might change in the future
    hopefully, but i was really understanding when i was 9, perhaps i matured quicker.
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    Of course a 9 year old will think it's weird because from a young age we are taught that a man and a woman go together. I don't think I would have even come across homosexuality in any way at that age. It wasn't taught in school and my parents didn't know any gay people so I would have probably thought it was weird too.

    That doesn't make him a hateful homophobe. He just hasn't learned enough about the world yet or had time to come up with his own opinions. It really is nothing to worry about. People's views change throughout childhood. That is part of growing up.
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    He doesn't need to understand it or even think it isn't weird. As long as he tolerates gay people and doesn't discriminate against them I don't see the issue.
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    So what? I have a natural hatred of gays but I can keep it to myself and I'm sure your brother can too
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    (Original post by JavaScriptMaster)
    So what? I have a natural hatred of gays but I can keep it to myself and I'm sure your brother can too
    You'd really say you hated them?

    I'm not gay and I don't have any attraction to men. I don't get it at all. However, if 2 people are gay then sure go for it just don't rub it in my face. As long as they keep it behind closed doors then I couldn't care less.

    If you met someone and got along with them but it was revealed 2 weeks later that they were gay would it alter your opinion of them?
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    (Original post by JavaScriptMaster)
    So what? I have a natural hatred of gays but I can keep it to myself and I'm sure your brother can too
    alrite m8
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    (Original post by Marked Target)
    You'd really say you hated them?

    I'm not gay and I don't have any attraction to men. I don't get it at all. However, if 2 people are gay then sure go for it just don't rub it in my face. As long as they keep it behind closed doors then I couldn't care less.

    If you met someone and got along with them but it was revealed 2 weeks later that they were gay would it alter your opinion of them?
    well if they can really keep it to themselves then I'll be fine but if they're all flamboyant and whatnot then it's a whole different ball game
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    (Original post by JavaScriptMaster)
    well if they can really keep it to themselves then I'll be fine but if they're all flamboyant and whatnot then it's a whole different ball game
    Oh yeah, I can totally understand that. I'd say that's just them being ****s though and there are plenty of straight ****s as well.
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    You got triggered by your 9 (nine) year old brother saying being gay is weird. Just think about for a second.

    If you take the meaning of 'weird' as being unusual, he's completely correct. Being gay isn't normal.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    my brother, he's 9 and has homophobic views. I asked him about what he thinks of gay people because he can now grasp the concept of girl friend/boy friends. i asked him what he thinks of a boy loving another boy and he frowns and said it's weird.

    I had to explain to him that he needs to be more accepting, explained that just like he didn't choose his hair colour, skin colour, and eye colour, gay people can't help being homosexual.

    My parents are homophobics but they dont talk about it, my mum sometimes jokingly tell my brother that certain things are for girls like toys and just the general distinction between a boy and a girl's interests. but never have they preached about homophobia.

    I wonder where he gets this view from, he is firm when it comes to blue for boy and pink for girls. im really disappointed, i thought homophobia would end with my parents generation in this family, but it seems my brother will carry it on, I tried to convince him that being gay is ok even if he didnt like gay people...dont know where to go from here.
    He just said they're weird, calm down, he's already saying 'let's kill the gays they are the sins foretold by Christ' is he?
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    (Original post by Marked Target)
    Oh yeah, I can totally understand that. I'd say that's just them being ****s though and there are plenty of straight ****s as well.
    Yea... that's about right
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    (Original post by JavaScriptMaster)
    So what? I have a natural hatred of gays but I can keep it to myself and I'm sure your brother can too
    Hatred is such a strong word o_0
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    (Original post by SuperHuman98)
    Hatred is such a strong word o_0
    Yea but Homophobic means "Hating Homosexuals" so it's the same as saying "I have a natural phobia" I'd rather use English words than Latin lol
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    Its ok to hate the idea of being gay but it isn't ok to hate someone because they are gay.
 
 
 
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