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    Seriously guys, I need help.

    I can't really explain this phenomena.

    How do you start feeling less like a child and more like an adult. Because I feel so depressed and insecure, and it ruins every relationship I have, romantic or platonic. I push people away, I feel ugly all of the time, I stammer, and panic, and worry. And I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm entering my second year of uni and I don't know what to do.

    Help.
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    (Original post by tealites)
    Seriously guys, I need help.

    I can't really explain this phenomena.

    How do you start feeling less like a child and more like an adult. Because I feel so depressed and insecure, and it ruins every relationship I have, romantic or platonic. I push people away, I feel ugly all of the time, I stammer, and panic, and worry. And I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm entering my second year of uni and I don't know what to do.

    Help.
    Have you spoken to a professional? I'm 18 and I think (I've been too scared to ask a doctor) that I have anxiety and it's seriously impacting my relationship so I'm considering asking for therapy or some form of help.
    In terms of the feeling insecure about your looks, I'm not sure if this will help, but I remind myself that not everyone can be considered attractive by most people. Some people just aren't conventionally attractive and that's me. It doesn't mean that I'm not attractive to some, but I'm no model. I also remind myself that people I wouldn't consider the most beautiful girls and guys are happily married, happily in relationships, so someone does think they're beautiful and someone will think so about me. When it comes down to it, if people don't want us for our looks (and we offer so much more- intelligence, humour, love) then that's their choice and someone else will.
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    (Original post by tealites)
    I push people away
    That's your problem, stop isolating yourself. Prolonged isolation leads you into loneliness and depression possibly. You're a human being, you're a social being. Talk to people, it's not easy but that'll make you feel better.

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    I feel ugly all the time
    It shouldn't matter, people will eventually accept you for who you are the same way your friends did back in high school etc.
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    not saying this in a rude way but perhaps you need to see a therapist
 
 
 
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