Calm down lol - you're making this into a big deal when it's not.
Ok, the text thing - that's your bf's habit - deal with it. He still texts you goodnight, he still remembers you, he's still thinking of you - it's just his habit to text you when he finishes clubbing. Everyone has their own ways. If it bothers you THAT much talk to him, but the likelihood is he just thinks it makes more sense to text you goodnight when he's actually going to sleep.
And as for a girl wanting the guy to WANT to do something. No, guys don't work like that. In fact, my boyfriend of 1yr8months still don't understand that. My other close friend took a long while when his fiancee had to explain the same concept to him.
My boyfriend's logic to it is this - "Surely it means more when I do something even though I don't want to do it, but I do it nonetheless just because I want you to be happy?" Because it's a lot harder to do things you don't wanna, but you do it, you make that extra effort, because that person is simply that important to you. On the other hand, if you WANT to do something, then it's less effort, and it's not a sacrifice. So because he does what he does not want to do, just for you, it's a sacrifice that he's willing to make for you because you're special to him.
And my boyfriend's logic is this as well - "I can't change the way I feel - I don't want to do it, just like you can't make yourself want to do the washing up. When I ask if you could get me a drink, you don't WANT to get me a drink but you get it anyway cus you love me, and you can't make yourself want to." (it's true, I wouldn't WANT to deliberately go downstairs to get him a drink, though I often ask him to do that for me lol)
Basically, I've realised - when my bf asks me to do him favours etc, I find it a hassle and I don't want to either, and sometimes I ask him "Do I have to?" - but I do it anyway, just for him. It's the same with him. And why should I expect him to WANT to do everything I ask of him when I don't do that myself?
So the whole contact thing - tell him to make some effort. In the end it IS a responsibility and we're all young - we don't like responsibilities. It's not that he does not want to talk to you, or that he does not like you enough - it's just sometimes he prefers to do other things. He needs less attention than you (that's not to imply you're attention-seeking, you're not. But different people need different levels of attention). If you need more attention than he's giving, you need to talk with him so that he knows, because if he doesn't know then he can't do anything about it. Sometimes guys wanna do other things other than talk to their gfs and it's got nothing to do with whether they like you or not - it just means they like doing whatever it is they wanna do at that point. Just as you might wanna read a book at a certain point instead of chat with your bf - it has nothing to do with how much you love him and nothing to do with whether you enjoy his company etc - it just means you wanna read a book at that point. There're no second meanings.
All in all, calm down. Guys don't work in the same way as girls do, and why should they? They're men for a reason lol. If you're unhappy with the way some things are done, talk to him, not us