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    I've spoken to a few people about this and heard that apparently it's a "parent" thing but my family have been getting increasingly mean to me before I leave to go to university. Admittedly, I'm quite a sarcastic and cold person, but I'm far from horrible and keep being reminded that I'm a "cold fish" and that I'm "weird" by my parents.

    I'm not sure if they're trying to drop things to me before I leave to "help me out" but I'm a very sociable person who has a lot of friends and I have enough empathy and love inside of me that I'll get along fine.

    My parents are upset about me leaving deep down and have told me that they're putting on a brave face but I wondered if anybody else is going through this issue where they're covering up for that upset with being cold. I just wanted a nice last few weeks at home before I leave, but instead it's making me anxious that they're going to be distant when I have actually left.
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    I've spoken to a few people about this and heard that apparently it's a "parent" thing but my family have been getting increasingly mean to me before I leave to go to university. Admittedly, I'm quite a sarcastic and cold person, but I'm far from horrible and keep being reminded that I'm a "cold fish" and that I'm "weird" by my parents.

    I'm not sure if they're trying to drop things to me before I leave to "help me out" but I'm a very sociable person who has a lot of friends and I have enough empathy and love inside of me that I'll get along fine.

    My parents are upset about me leaving deep down and have told me that they're putting on a brave face but I wondered if anybody else is going through this issue where they're covering up for that upset with being cold. I just wanted a nice last few weeks at home before I leave, but instead it's making me anxious that they're going to be distant when I have actually left.
    You could talk to them about it and say the things they're calling you are hurting you but honestly from what it sounds like they're just teasing you. Some people use teasing to cover up getting emotional or upset
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    If you find it difficult to have a talk with them before you leave, when you arrive at uni, write them a letter and explain how you feel.
    You have to make your own choices in life, and they won't always coincide with what your parents want. They are probably sad at you leaving home and that's understandable.
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    The best thing you can do is confront them about it but yeh my parents are even worse. I'm not going to uni til next year but my parents keep saying I'm not going to get into any university, but your parents are probably just being harsh to you because deep down they're going to miss you a lot and they're distancing themselves so they don't miss you so much
 
 
 
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