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    I've finished my first year at uni, and over the year have lost contact with the majority of my school friends.... I didn't have many friends at school until during my A-Levels, but looking back I've just moved on from them now, and am much closer to uni friends (most of who live quite far away from me). As a result, it's turning out to be quite lonely summer, as I don't feel like I should be keeping in contact with people for the sake of it.

    As silly as this sounds, am I in the minority being in this situation?
    (PS Anon as people I know are aware who I am on TSR!)
    Thanks in advance
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    I have 4 groups of friends

    School - see them on and off - was clsoe to some of them
    College - don't really see any of them
    Uni - see them on and off

    Work - most of my friends are old/current work colleagues

    You have probably changed a lot from shcool so those peopel might not be best suited to be your friends - or there maybe some cool people - only you will know of course but it doesn't sound liek it given the fact you never kept in contact with any of them.
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    I find I've had to put in quite a lot of effort to stay in touch with my schoolfriends, but it's worth it.
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    I'm in the exact same situation although I occasionally go out with friends from school.I only really consider them to be acquaintances though and I think they're starting to cotton on to the fact that I just use them for someone to go out with:ninja:
    If they're not close friends that you value then its totally alright to use them in my humble opinion
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    Just facebook some of your old school friends, "Hi, long time, what you up to now? fancy a drink soon? etc etc". I've found personally that you need to make the effort yourself, and as soon as start socialising again it'll get much better.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've finished my first year at uni, and over the year have lost contact with the majority of my school friends.... I didn't have many friends at school until during my A-Levels, but looking back I've just moved on from them now, and am much closer to uni friends (most of who live quite far away from me). As a result, it's turning out to be quite lonely summer, as I don't feel like I should be keeping in contact with people for the sake of it.

    As silly as this sounds, am I in the minority being in this situation?
    (PS Anon as people I know are aware who I am on TSR!)
    Thanks in advance
    If you don't fancy getting back into contact with your old friends, then I think that's fine - I feel pretty much the same as you in regards to a lot of my old school friends (plus uni friends living far away).

    To make the summer less lonely, maybe do more things with your family (depends how close you are with them) or take up jogging, going to the gym, start something you've always been meaning to do etc.

    But to answer your question, I don't know about being in the minority/majority, but you're definitely not alone!
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    I only get to see some of my friends from school once every few months, which would be similar to the opportunities we'd have whilst at uni (I'm not at uni, at college, but we live all far apart in a rather secluded little hole, so it's hard to get together). Anyway, I find that even after weeks of not seeing each other (months and months in some cases) most of them I still get on with perfectly naturally. So, even if you only see them once a year, if you're good enough friends with them, i think you can stay in contact.
 
 
 
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