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To start with, me and my gf broke up a few weeks ago now and i feel like im ready to start seeing other people again.
However, the one girl that i'm interested in from college lives in a different town and i dont have her number or anything. And last year i never really made an effort to meet any new girls since i was perfectly happy with my gf and just hung round with my mates. But now i want to get to know this other girl, i cant, because its the holidays and i dont know anyone who knows her, her msn or whatever. Then when i go back to college i wont see her in lessons anymore due to her dropping the only subject i had with her. So if anyone has any ideas on what i could do id really appreciate it :smile:

If it helps she does smile at me on the odd occassion we pass each other. Dunno if it'll help tho lol.

P.s. She does have myspace but the only friend she has is that Tom that everyone gets. Dont think she really uses myspace or things like that much lol. So id feel a bit odd adding her on that.

Reply 1

Consie

it sounds as though youll have to wait to go back to see her again. Theres got to be someone who knows her in college, you could get her emial/number off them. If shes quite hot its impossible for her to have no mates to get in touch with. It doesnt matter if you dont properly know the mates. If you just see her hanging round with some remember their faces and pull them up when you cross them and ask for her deets, she'd probably get the message that way anyway.

You could just straight up ask to take her out for a drink/dinner or whatever, just asking that question straight has served me well, but then i spend the next few days crapping myself about where to take her/how ill act. If you make friends first you might come across as a bit of a creep later on, so id say its best to just come across that your interested in being more than friends to start with.

do you want to get some practice in with other girls over the hols or are you only interested in netting her? You could just find out what works for you by practicing on girls over the hols and then just use that to get her in college.

i was in your position not making many female friends when i went to college due to having a girlfriend. Its the double edged sword of turning up with one really.

isnt her email on myspace?

Reply 2

Innuendo_anonymous

Yeah i had actually thought about asking her out straight out before college ended but iwas still pretty messed up about my ex and it just didnt seem suitable. I might go that way if i get the courage to do so when i get back to college.

For the practising on other girls suggestion, id prefer just to try and get to know her really.

Erm well its not actually on her myspace but she must have one because you need one to get a myspace in the first place lol. If you know how to find out their email from their myspace that would be cool but i dont think its possible unless they put it up themselves.

See if i can find anyone who knows her number or anything.

Reply 3

Consie

It does take balls like but its best to do it and know rather than wonder. 2 out of the 3 times ive done it was just on the off chance becasue it looked as though she wasnt interested - i was having one last stab at getting her, and she said yes. So its always just worth asking even if it looks like she'll say no. She'll probably admire your courage and the straightness of the question too. Asking her out for a drink is probably easier than dinner too.

you have to have some chums that might know one of her mates, what about the people she sat with in the lesson?

Reply 4

Innuendo_anonymous

Yeah i used to be quite a shy guy and sort of still am but after having my last gf (was first kiss etc etc) i feel a lot more confident, and free haha :smile:

Well she sat with like 3 guys and one girl but she didnt really talk to any of them apart from this one girl who sat next to her, unfortunately i dont know her lol. But im sure one of my friends must know her or someone that does. I'll ask him tomorrow when we go play pool.

Do you think asking her to a movie would be a good idea or would a drink be better?

Cheers fer your help :smile:

Reply 5

Consie

ha, you sound the same as me confidance wise

depends how good your small talk is and how much you think you have in common. My small talk is crap so i need proper things to talk about, so it can be sometimes difficult to sustain convo which youd need to do if you were in a bar all night (though after a few pints it all becomes irrelevent anyway). A film is probably a good idea too. Perhaps do both - watch a film then have some drinks.

thing is though, despite you not sounding like a every hole is a goal dude (im not eihter) what if you wait all summer and she aint inetersted? You could have bagged plenty of poon/another good girl during the summer.

Reply 6

Innuendo_anonymous

Well im not really sure how my small talk is really haha. Depends how i feel i guess, some days i can talk for ages and ages. And some days i can barely think of enought things to string a sentece together. What would you class as small talk though?

I think i'll prob go with the movie idea so then if i do run out of things to say i can atleast talk about the movie or something lol.

Yeah thats true. I hadn't completely closed off the option of seeing other people, i just thought i head in this direction for the moment. But if i cant get in contact with her until i go back til college i'll just have a look round at the other girls.

Reply 7

Consie

i dont really know, im that crap at it. Just find out what shes into. The upside of knowing nothing about her is that there is plenty to ask her about. Maybe have a shot or two before you go to loosen you up.

good point again on the film.

you dont even have to be 'seeing' other folk, its just getting your technique down in clubs or asking people out. you can always just let the date fall through, its achieving the date in the first place thats the good practice bit.

all this has got me ****ting myself for my 'date' next week. Shes going to be sober at the beginning of the night so im going to have to not only eat properly (im a damn messy eater) to start with, i need things to say :|. Plus shes older, i dont want to sound like a kid.

Im sure Mr. Smirnoff will sort me out though.

Reply 8

Innuendo_anonymous

Haha well im not so sure about the shots (never been drunk for some stupid reason, do drink tho) but il take into consideration. norm feel a bit more relaxed after a beer or something lol. Hopefully things will go my way and i'll meet her before the hols finish :smile:

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Am sure you'll be fine, you seem pretty confident to me. Just be yourself and hope for the best :smile:

. Cant really give any advice since i haven't really been on many dates myself lol, only thing i can think of is to just try and relax. Good luck though.

Reply 9

Consie

cheers lerd. Yeah dont get drunk by any means, i was just saying have something to perhaps loosen you up. Its generally a shot or two for me becasue its job done quickly, but if a beer does it for you thats fine. All that said, i guess once your in the zone you just got with the flow.