Any tips on making friends in college ?
Starting college in a couple days social anxiety Watch
- Thread Starter
- 02-09-2016 23:26
- 02-09-2016 23:39
Hey there! I was in your position this time last year and I was just as worried as you, but I can tell you now, I'm definitely content now. I have a bit of social anxiety too and I really struggle to approach new people and make small talk and try to make friends, but there are communities and your classes that help you do that! You'll be put in all your classes with these people and you will look around and notice the people you think you'd get along with, but you don't have to talk to them straight away because they'll be your class for two years usually! I did this (noticed the people who seemed friendly and like I'd get along with) and kind of tried to sit near them in class. Eventually, after sitting by them and having to work with them for so long, you begin to form friendships in class anyway. These are likely to leave the classroom too at some point. Plus, the first few lessons of every subject are also full of ice-breaker activities usually, so you have chances to get to know people!
Also, lots of colleges have communities you can join. Mine has a very wide variety of these groups- they're kind of like universities sororities, but I don't think all colleges do this. If your college does do this, try to join a group you might be interested in- it's a great way to meet new people with similar interests outside of lesson. For example, my college has a LGBT group, Languages groups, Art groups, and even common interest groups like Harry Potter and Kpop communities! As I say, not all colleges will have this, but most do have music groups, extra curricular activities, etc. It's definitely good to join something like this, as nerve wracking as it can be. I got around that by taking a friend I already had from High School.
But at the end of the day, friends kind of come to you in college. If not straight away, they will eventually. Plus, if you do make very few friends, it's only for two years! Lots of people only make their true friends in university, so there's not much to worry about. I wish you all the best with college and hope this helped a bit!