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    I'm 20, studying on an online access course right now. If I pass this I could get into university next year.

    Thing is, I've got no idea what I want to study or where I want to study. It probably sounds really daft, but what should I do? It's stressing me and messing with my ability to focus on the course, which I'm doing out of desperation rather than anything else anyway.

    My main motivation for getting to university is just to leave home. I live in the middle of nowhere, jobs are pretty hard to find, and socialising is fairly difficult just because there are so few people. This year I had a breakup-they were pretty much my only friend as well-so I literally have no friends right now. It's not like I'm a social failure,it's just that when there are three people your age within 20 miles it's way too easy to end up with no friends . Village people can back me up on this . I am doing stuff, volunteering, sports and so on to try and meet people but living in a city sounds great at this point.

    Is this a decent reason for wanting to go to uni or should I try and plan something else out? If so, what?

    Also I'm not sure if I'm even capable of managing university level work.I got good grades at GCSE and AS level(dropped out after that because reasons..), but I'm struggling with this course, which is alarming me a bit.

    Aaaand the final thing is that I got diagnosed with depression a couple of years ago, and I'm never quite sure to what extent mental health plays a part in how I feel about everything or react to things. Any advice on that?

    Overall, to quote Motion City Soundtrack (yes, I was an emo kid) the future freaks me out.

    Any advice would be really appreciated, even if you just wanna tell me to grow up, cheers.
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    Is it a good reason to go to university? Yes.

    Definetly, to get out of a rut, meet some new people, and learn what you want to do in life - is a very good reason to make a change and go to university..

    However, I would also say that choosing the right subject is quite important, and for you - if you really dont know what you want to do in the future, then try and pick a subject that will open as many doors as possible. Dont go for something specific, but pick a broad subject that is generally well respected (I dont know what you are qualified for but things like traditional humanities, sciences, maths, etc) standard subjects that can lead to a lot of jobs.

    At this point in time what you really dont want to be doing is commiting yourself to a single path, unless you are 100% sure that is your future.. and it seems like you are not. its awful I see so many students study who something very niche and then at the end decide that it was never what they really wanted, but now 40k later and with a useless subject, they are trapped and struggling to break into other areas..
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    I'm 20, studying on an online access course right now. If I pass this I could get into university next year.

    Thing is, I've got no idea what I want to study or where I want to study. It probably sounds really daft, but what should I do? It's stressing me and messing with my ability to focus on the course, which I'm doing out of desperation rather than anything else anyway.

    My main motivation for getting to university is just to leave home. I live in the middle of nowhere, jobs are pretty hard to find, and socialising is fairly difficult just because there are so few people. This year I had a breakup-they were pretty much my only friend as well-so I literally have no friends right now. It's not like I'm a social failure,it's just that when there are three people your age within 20 miles it's way too easy to end up with no friends . Village people can back me up on this . I am doing stuff, volunteering, sports and so on to try and meet people but living in a city sounds great at this point.

    Is this a decent reason for wanting to go to uni or should I try and plan something else out? If so, what?

    Also I'm not sure if I'm even capable of managing university level work.I got good grades at GCSE and AS level(dropped out after that because reasons..), but I'm struggling with this course, which is alarming me a bit.

    Aaaand the final thing is that I got diagnosed with depression a couple of years ago, and I'm never quite sure to what extent mental health plays a part in how I feel about everything or react to things. Any advice on that?

    Overall, to quote Motion City Soundtrack (yes, I was an emo kid) the future freaks me out.

    Any advice would be really appreciated, even if you just wanna tell me to grow up, cheers.
    Go to university in the USA. Provided you have one of those sexy accents and say **** like "whingebag" and "moppet". everybody will wanna bone you and everybody will want to be you. Your depression will dissolve as your misery melts into an endless sea of ecstasy and bosoms.
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    Clearly you are going through a lot right now but you seem to be in a good frame of mind. You want to better yourself. How do you find education? Is there a subject which interests? What did you do in AS and what did you get? How about possibly doing A2 with new spec and then going to university? I understand I am asking you a lot of questions but this should get you thinking. You don't want to just go to university for the sake of it and be in high depth. University however provides the platform to discover yourself and meet new people which sounds like something you need. You need to ask yourself what you want in life as in what will bring you self-satisfication. Is it money? Is it having a good social life? Is it having a good mix? I would advise you to try and find a passion but not waste time. It does seem to me you need to go leave your city but university isn't the only way out. You could do an apprenticeship and live out maybe? I don't felt I really could help when I read this and now feel like I am derailing. It is that time of the night. I will respond tommorow. If you need to talk pm me
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    Go with a subject that you enjoy learning about, that's always a good place to start
 
 
 
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