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    I'm currently recovering from an ED, but have had depressive thoughts and moodswings for about 5 years or so. I've been in treatment briefly, but they didn't think I was bad enough to continue seeing me. The problem is that I'm so dissatisfied with my life - I feel useless and, although I don't know what it is, I want to do something important - and yet it's often a struggle for me to get through my day-to-day productive 'must-do's. I feel like I spend all day making pointless lists and trying to distract myself, but whenever I stop to think about it I'm completely miserable and still feel like I'm achieving - and therefore am worth - nothing.
    My life feels pointless. I have no hobbies, no interests - I just spend all day trying to waste time so that I can go to sleep and forget about it for a bit. If someone can offer any help/advice, that'd be great.
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    Maybe it would help you to get a hobby? I know you said that they believe you weren't severe enough for treatment; but it might be worth to ask again?

    What I would advise for you to do is to get a piece of paper and write the general events that would happen in your day, the people you were with and the environment you're in (inside/outside, around people you know and love / strangers / alone, etc). Then analyse how each of these factors you are coming across are affecting you physically (do they hurt your back? Do they make you worn out? Headaches? ), how each event makes you feel (washing dishes could make you feel used and repetetive, work can make you stressed, being in a hot room can make you feel low in mood and energy, etc).

    After that, go through each problem and write down atleast 3 well-thought solutions for each one. Pick the one solution which would be the least stressful or the most fun to you and do that.

    I would also advise you to practise yoga and meditation since they guide you to realise the things you really want from life rather than relying on simplistic tasks to get you through each day. Taking up a hobby would also give you a way to use your time, since it will actually benefit you both physically and mentally, since you will be doing something for yourself which you are passionate about. This will give you more confidence, a wider social circle (where you will find more personal support emotionally), and you may even find a purpose for yourself who knows? But the first advice I have gifted you with is the most I can do for you. "I can only show you the door, it's you who has to walk through it" (sorry, personal inside joke sort of, but it does make sense to this situation)
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