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Why most women fall love with Bad boys !

I am not understand , Why most women fall love with Bad boys !
i think it's because there are not you, it's more exciting, somehow. Afterall opposites attract!

Tell me more please .

Reply 1

Picnico

Women with self esteem/confidence may not settle for a bad boy (unless they find him physically attractive and/or rich).

Some people who appear to some to be uneducated 'bad boys' are actually clever with hearts of gold and some people who appear to be educated and 'respectable' are just good at learning what they need to do, by fair means or foul, to pass exams, without being particularly intellectual at all and are really insecure. However there are still a lot of people who look like and are bad boys.

I watched a comedy programme a couple of nights ago 'Last comic standing' in which one of the male comics said that every female has a male friend who they like 'but not in that way'. He basically said that this is like an applicant being interviewed for a job and being told that they meet all the qualities that they are looking for but they still aren't going to hire him- they are going to hire somebody who is less reliable and less intelligent instead. The interviewer then says to the unsuccessful applicant that they will call him up every so often to complain about how bad the person they have hired is.

Experience tells me that this observation is spot on.

The custom of calling them 'bad boys' is inhelpful for a start because people continue to use this terms for people who are long out of their teenage years, into their 30s, 40s and 50s. These people are not 'bad boys'- they are irresponsible, unintelligent, uncouth men.

Reply 2

Crimson Black

13

Picnico

The thing is, some people who appear to be uneducated 'bad boys' are actually clever with hearts of gold and some people who appear to be educated and 'respectable' are just good at learning what they need to do, by fair means or foul, to pass exams, without being particularly intellectual at all and are really insecure.

I'm all for the "people are not what they seem", but... no.

Reply 3

rawkingpunkster

I am not understand what typing you.

Well, thats a stereotype. Not all women go for bad boys.

(www.dictionary.com if you don't know what stereotype means)

Reply 4

sugar-pie

Picnico

Women with self esteem/confidence may not settle for a bad boy (unless they find him physically attractive and/or rich).

The thing is, some people who appear to be uneducated 'bad boys' are actually clever with hearts of gold and some people who appear to be educated and 'respectable' are just good at learning what they need to do, by fair means or foul, to pass exams, without being particularly intellectual at all and are really insecure.

Yeah they're always good to have around.

I'm not really into bad boys, but I prefer guys that don't feel this need to constantly remind you of how smart they are. Also, guys that don't throw up a wall of fakeness around them and love who they are. It's a welcome change from my school, where the only quality they want to see in you is being a braniac and working hard.

Reply 5

bone-machine

9

its interesting and i cant really explain it..i am guilty of falling for bad boys, ....i think it goes back to some sort of base instict of wanting to be dominated. If they treat you mean its more of a challange to pin them down, you feel somehow special. i sort of thrive off how unpredicable a relationship with a bad boy can be ...nice gentlemanly boys who call me everynight and treat me like a 'princess' do nothign for me.

stupid i know..hopefully ill grow out of it :s

Reply 6

lucyb-90

1

i don't fall for 'bad boys' i don't think :s-smilie:

Reply 7

Segat1

16

I'd rather go for someone who has a bit of fire, passion and sense of risk than a mummys boy who might be nice and all but frankly boring as ****.

Reply 8

louisedotcom

13

Im not even remotely interested in 'bad boys'

I just think 'what a ********' and carry on walking.

Love you long time?

su9799

Why do most women fall love with Bad boys?

They don't.

Reply 11

HereFishyFishy

13

I'm not entirely sure I know what you mean by 'bad boy'. Care to define?

Reply 12

Kew

16

I don't see the attraction of 'bad boys' either. Why would someone want to go out with someone who treats them badly? It's perfectly possible to be passionate, risk-taking etc. without being a ****, by the way - my boyfriend isn't a 'bad boy' at all, yet isn't boring in the slightest!

Reply 13

Rennie

1

I don't go for bad boys at all.

I have fallen for a few guys who have been a bit of an idiot around me when I was with them but the rest of the time they're really nice. Just not good in relationships.

I think for some women it's exciting to be with someone unpredictable and it makes them feel just that bit naughty. And, also, some women are just unfortunate. They pick the bad boys without noticing what they're really like.

There's a difference between going for bad guys and going for the 'bad boy' look. I mean, some women like men to look rough and maybe not with perfect hair and a bit of stubble whereas other women like men that are cleanly shaven and perfect looking. It's all about personal preference there. Personally, I quite like the rather ruffled look.

Reply 14

joppajoppa

'Badboy' characteristics usually coincide with higher testosterone levels which give a man a more masculine (usually considered attractive) appearance... Women want male children with these characteristics because they are usually result in a greater number of sexual partners (i.e. more likely to pass on their genes), so they choose to mate with those who have them.

...Which all contributes to girls going for the so called Badboys ahead of 'nice' guys.

Reply 15

dyslexic_banana

1

louisedotcom

Im not even remotely interested in 'bad boys'

I just think 'what a ********' and carry on walking.

Kew

I don't see the attraction of 'bad boys' either. Why would someone want to go out with someone who treats them badly? It's perfectly possible to be passionate, risk-taking etc. without being a ****, by the way - my boyfriend isn't a 'bad boy' at all, yet isn't boring in the slightest!

Rennie

I don't go for bad boys at all.

I have fallen for a few guys who have been a bit of an idiot around me when I was with them but the rest of the time they're really nice. Just not good in relationships.

I think for some women it's exciting to be with someone unpredictable and it makes them feel just that bit naughty. And, also, some women are just unfortunate. They pick the bad boys without noticing what they're really like.

There's a difference between going for bad guys and going for the 'bad boy' look. I mean, some women like men to look rough and maybe not with perfect hair and a bit of stubble whereas other women like men that are cleanly shaven and perfect looking. It's all about personal preference there. Personally, I quite like the rather ruffled look.

Thank God for common sense.

Segat1

I'd rather go for someone who has a bit of fire, passion and sense of risk than a mummys boy who might be nice and all but frankly boring as ****.

Could you elaborate, as to what you mean? A sense of risk? Someone who trespasses on private land, perhaps? Exceeds the speed limit? Goes out when it's overcast, without a brolly? "A bit of fire"? Like a dragon? Joking aside, I'm just curious as to what you mean. I'd also imagine that a guy could have all these qualities, whilst, shock, shock, horror, horror, being nice, and not a 'bad boy'.

Reply 16

Segat1

16

dyslexic_banana

Could you elaborate, as to what you mean? A sense of risk? Someone who trespasses on private land, perhaps? Exceeds the speed limit? Goes out when it's overcast, without a brolly? "A bit of fire"? Like a dragon? Joking aside, I'm just curious as to what you mean. I'd also imagine that a guy could have all these qualities, whilst, shock, shock, horror, horror, being nice, and not a 'bad boy'.

LOL Exactly. I'm talking about someone who has their own volition, is spontaneous, and takes risks e.g. going "**** it, grab your bathers, we're driving to Cornwall", or starts tangoing in the supermarket. etc. I jsut cannot stand downtordden, chip on the shouder type blokes who think the entire world is against them so why bother trying. Its a confidence, slight arrogance thing, and wet blankets are not even in the picture when they're around. Ugh.

Reply 17

Rennie

1

Not all nice guys have to be 'mummy's boys' or doormats. You can be nice whilst being spontaneous and having a good time.

Reply 18

dyslexic_banana

1

Segat1

LOL Exactly. I'm talking about someone who has their own volition, is spontaneous, and takes risks e.g. going "**** it, grab your bathers, we're driving to Cornwall"

Interestingly enough, I'm planning a forthcoming trip to the Isles of Scilly, and intend on waiting till the forecast is nice, and then going at the drop of a hat, without necessarily having booked a campsite, hoping to find somewhere to pitch my tent. So, I guess this makes me a risk-taker; sorted.

Segat1

or starts tangoing in the supermarket

Aren't such people usually recaptured pretty quickly???

Reply 19

dyslexic_banana

1

Rennie

Not all nice guys have to be 'mummy's boys' or doormats. You can be nice whilst being spontaneous and having a good time.

Amen.

Why most women fall love with Bad boys !

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