I'm posting as anon in case the guy reads this. But, as I'm 20 and the guy I'm seeing is 26...when and how do I know when we're 'officially' classed as being together (ie him referring to me as his g/f and vice versa)? It's not like he's gonna turn round and say "Will you be my girlfriend?" cos we're not 12...but I'm just curious. It's a while since I've been in this situation.
How long have you been seeing each other? I guess it's just with time.
Well, after a while I have a chat about exclusivity and say, "Look, I'd like to introduce you to people as my boyfriend. How do you feel about that? "
zomg facebook it,do you even have to ask.
On a serious note,Just ask him.
A good way in is saying ' *RANDOM PERSON* asked me if I was single today." Then ask him what he thinks. Say you're not sure if you are, and you'll end up having 'that chat'.
Good thinking Batman.
In fact...this has just occurred to me...but we were sat in his car the other day and I was telling him about this guy I always see on the bus who keeps asking me to go for a drink with him (been telling him about it since before we started seeing each other) and he snuggled up close and said something like "I don't wanna share you" - should I take this as gospel?!
just say to him "so can i call u my boyf?"
I'll probably come off the worst in this here, but when I was seeing a guy a few years ago (I've spoken about him in a previous thread somewhere) and he'd taken it too far one night and really hurt me/made me angry, I ended up going off to another club with my best friend and pulling another lad just for fun (I didn't know they knew, and hated, each other) and it was only then that he started giving me the "I thought we were going out?" treatment when before, neither of us had said anything. So yeah, it's better than you get it out in the open and find out what's going on.
True...well I don't think he has the time to go off with someone else. And I don't wanna sound big headed but it really seems from things he says in texts and stuff that he feels the same about me as I do about him. He keeps telling me he can't stop thinking about me and stuff...which is lovely, but I'd still rather get it all out in the open!! Plus, I'm really happy that (despite having opportunities) he's respected me enough not to try it on...I could sooooo easily fall for this guy!
I never said anything to my boyfriend like "Are we going out?" or "Am I your girlfriend?" because they just sound like things kids say to their "boy/girlfriend" on the playground. It just seemed obvious to us, and eachother, that we were together and it would be unacceptable for us to run off shagging other people. We didn't want anyone else so there was no need to say "Hey, I'm off out tonight and I might meet some fitties and I just wondered if we're official or not so I know if I'm allowed to go have sex with some slapper".
It becomes official after precisely 7 weeks, 4 days, 13 hours, 51 minutes and 42 seconds
see with mines it was someone else saying to him ' so is she your girlfrend?'
he text me that night going 'are you?' to which we had a conversation about what we both wanted!
i say you should just bring it up casually! better to know where you stand is it not? clarity is good, and he sounds lovely and seems to be really into you.
I don't think that you have to ask after the age of about 10 - you just seem to know.