Get over first love

They always tell you that your first will always be specia. I'm stuck on what I should do to get over someone very special. I got some good advice somebody else's problem about how my partner wanted to see another guy. It's looking likely that she likes him and after everything I tryied, I think and feel like I should stop trying to win her over. It's hard because I see her a lot in Uni, at work and between our friends. I can't picture her likeing another man She hasn't blown ne off nor ended it but it's coming, I can see it. I dont kno what to do I wish I could run away from all of this but, as above there, is a lot that keeps us together.

I hope I never have to cross that bridge.

do you realise how high this expectation is? surely it's better for yourself if you just admit it's probably going to happen, the chances that it WILL happen are a lot greater than the chances that it won't happen because life is just evil like that it's such an excessively dependent thought to have

just putting the idea out there.

True, very true. But being paranoid will do me no good - I can't prepare myself for a heartbreak, so I'm just gonna enjoy what I have now. I've tried preparing myself and it only leads to paranoia. Who knows. Well, I hope we don't break up lol, why wouldn't I hope so?

Mm. Suffice it to say that becoming overly preoccupied with the transient nature of human relationships can tend to exert the bearing of a self-fulfilling prophecy. By all means, endeavour to have your cake and eat it too; but only on the proviso that you will more-than-likely be left without the satisfaction of either.

Unrequited infatuation is a personal hell with which I have been quite-intimately acquainted. However, I have dealt with it before; and I can, if need be, endure it again. If nothing else, I was designed to.

I still wasn’t till last week really (we broke up in April), till I pulled some other girl last week. Now I’m totally over my ex.

When someone said to me straight after I split that 'the best way to get over a girl to go out and pull another' I thought it was slightly evil and that I wasn’t that type of guy, plus I really loved my ex. However, her mates were telling her the same thing and she was a bit weak minded, so I didn’t see the point in my being virtuous. I don’t know what it is about pulling another girl, it’s probably something superficial, but it just helps you forget about first love so easily.

I personally thought nobody could beat my ex until I bagged this one last week, it sort of puts things back into perspective and you stop thinking of your ex in a nostalgic manner, as though she was some super woman. Just remember you break up for a reason. Awesome.

do you actually literally speak like this? genuinely curious here.

Ah yeah, paranoia can be a bit of a killer. at least you're sort of aware of it though... somewhere in your mind you're doubtful perhaps but despite this you've made the decision you're not going to let it manifest your every move and just enjoy it and hope for the best.

to be completely dependent on the hope that you'll be together forever and forever (which i'm afraid too many people do nowadays which is why so many poorpeople have to deal with friends slobbering all over them) is a bit pitiful i think

then again, i'm also aware of the fact that it's just the way some people are and it's how they like to live, trusting others constantly and putting themselves out there no matter how many times they've been given reasons not to which is quite respectable really.